Lonely but don't like people

digital currency will allow for the sort of tyranny the world has never seen. Criticize a government policy and at the push of a button you cannot make any financial transaction - no mortgage, rent, cannot buy food, medicines or even water.

Digital currency will give the state absolute control over a slave population - that is why the politicians want it! 

the CBDC will kill crypto... because that is government monopolised owned crypto that they intend to basically replace money with and get rid of the current money system with , basically we wont notice any different as it still works the same way as debit cards and money in the bank anyway aside from you wont have physical notes and change anymore which will then stop cash in hand tax dodgers. the cbdc will also transact and move faster, no more waiting months for money to move or a cheque to clear.

but the problem with it, is that crypto as we know it, bitcoin, ethereum, all the 100000s of other scam coins, that will all go. because a cbdc is centralised and government control, for one crypto supposed to be decentralised so a cbdc would instantly destroy the whole meaning of crypto currency. and another being government controlled is that governments when they control things they ban anyone else from doing it as governments want the monopoly on anything... such as how canabis growing and selling is banned, but yet the uk government is the largest grower seller and exporter or canabis in the world. 

NVM I just looked it up, and just wanted to put your mind at ease because I know in some ways you are an old head like me, don't worry, crypto will come come and go like a fad, physical assests like gold are always where it is at, since the Ukraine - Russian war the price of my inherited gold has gone up several times over though ofc I wouldn't sell unless I absolutely had to.
Oh btw

I Sperg said:

it was make new "Family" or be a hermit.

you just described my marriage lol. Nah I'm kiding, I do have friends, but like other than that yeah it's not more folks than I can count on both hands tbh.

Aw I didn't know you had cats. I share one with my neighbour: Very cuddly, not been declawed (I checked) but never stratches anything.

Sorry to hear that you lacked meaningful family ties. But what do you mean by CBDC? From your approximate description I don't think it will ever be implemented as a lot of top scientific jobs do not allow for the most vibrant social lives.

With "Social Credit Scoring" looming on all our horizons as soon as they can get that CBDC thing off the ground, then the number and quality of friends you have may well be part of the calculus applied to determine your income...

Friends have been essential to me, in the past. Lacking meaningfull family ties, it was make new "Family" or be a hermit.

I dunno, I think I relate at least somewhat to that. I don't need friends, but I still want them, friends are still nice to have even if they aren't essential to me.

Finding people you don't need to filter what you say and how you behave with is the thing. Otherwise its too much like putting on sn act. Thst can generate a lot of feelings of loneliness. This is not my culture or language here either, which can also be difficult.

That might be your experience, both of ours, judge me...

(And the fluffy one sheds a weird sort of very fine fluffy/spiderwebby shite that I have to keep vaccuming off my trousers, & the furniture which is a really raw deal, because she doesn't actually ever sit on me). 

But I am never lonely, and it's hard to be sad around cats....

God does make hypo-allergenic cats, I am told.

Great suggestion. It is very much to my regret, that i am allergic.

Cats make the best friends and pets. They are loving, listen to you, don't judge and are one of the cleanest animals.

loneliness?

Get yerself a cat.

And that's that.

(I think I managed a haiku!)

yeah thats one thing that ended up pushing me into getting a job. felt lonely to a breaking point that i just ended up getting a job for the sake of feeling like im hanging with friends lol

it kinda works. your work colleagues fill that gap, and are not super close though so you can go back home and still have a quiet life in your own private space.

The story of my life. Lol. I'm deaf anyway but I still really want friends but the idea of trying to get to know people is terrifying to me, especially as I would need to go out to, I don't know like a coffee shop or something to meet people and that's difficult in itself because of my disabilities.

I'm like that as well, people rarely get to see the real me. It's like being an actress in a play, they see the character I put on, but not the real me.

Can you find a group that deals with your special interests? like a meetup group for example say your interests was trains there are lots of train groups, that means you would be able to just talk about trains and less small talk, so why not see if there is a group based on whatever special interests you have. 

I wouldn’t say that I’m lonely and I don’t like interacting with people. I would say that I’m lonely and the people around me I struggle to relate to and often find quite boring.

it’s extremely difficult to make a connection with another human being unless you can find something you both find interesting to talk about. And sometimes the more you talk to people and discover what it is they are interested in the more you realise they are truly boring people and the less motivation you feel to push through and continue talking to them.

I think people seem to forget that the special interest thing in autism goes both ways. It’s not just a special interest in one or two things it’s also those things that we are not interested in we are totally disinterested in. Like we display anti-interest to certain, things quite a lot of things, that sit outside of our special interests.

that to make it hard to find common ground with Neurotypical, socially. I can make it hard to find common ground with autistic people whose special interests are completely dissimilar to our own.

I find that there are people at my workplace who are sound. But when I reflect on it, they are just too hard to be around due to me having to think relatively carefully of what to say. Then there are people I don't so much mind what I say based on what they will think, so much as what I will think. I have an internal bully that acts as a very high hurdle when I think of getting new friends. I always think twice, though I want them. It is only really people where I work that I interact with on a day to day basis. I feel close to some more than others, but there is always that gap on the one hand from my perspective of how much I need to preform, on the other hand from their perspective how cold they think I am... but in any case I always turn down social invitations as it causes me stress after they have happened. 

I don't write that entirely out of self pity! Just so you can understand my point of view.

oh yes.   online chat like this is about my limit.
i am going to try an irl meetup in a couple of weeks. That will be my first attempt at socialisation in maybe 10 years. (outside work)