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Hi everyone,

Do you have a sense of style and clear expression of your identity and tastes in your clothing? I really struggle to form a clear style and I end up feeling scruffy instead of purposefully put together. I've been looking at capsule wardrobes to see if I can fix this and find a bit of fashion sense. Curious if anyone else struggles with this? It doesn't help that I have to go into shops and feel everything, try the fit etc and can't just shop online like a lot of people do these days. 

This has stemmed from me wanting to make a good impression in my new job, which has a bit more of a formal dress code than my last one.

  • Oh dear!  Bless you, a job with a formal dress code.  I don't envy you.  I was never very good at that.

    My ...errr style if you want to call it that these days, consists of making a lot of very cookie stuff myself in order to avoid the revolting round things that fasten clothes and give me the ebbe jeebies even to look at or mention their name.  It's all elastic, over the head or velcro in some very eccentric fabrics - maps of Italy and stuff.

    When I HAD to do the dress code thing, I found one set of stuff I thought was acceptable to me and to work (M&S wide legged pants with elastic waist and over the head blouse and jacket with no...you knows).  I then bought a number of them in different colours to  get me through the week and I wore them until they fell apart to avoid the shopping experience too often.  The items were the same every day except that the colour changed.

  • in reply to Loz
    Loz said:
    I'm going to focus on period garments for myself

    I'm a big fan of Victorian and Edwardian dress - great silhouettes - but not really useful for the daily grind.

  • I'm practical when choosing what to wear.  What matters to me is that my clothes are clean and don't smell.

    I don't care about brands or the shops where I buy clothes.

    I think this attitude comes as a reaction to people in my past.  I have a cousin who is obsessed about brand names and stores. For her everything has to be an exclusive brand from a luxury store.  Then, my late father was very unhygienic, he could go for weeks or even months wearing the same clothes every day.  The smell was indescribable.

    I just wear what ever.  Although I have a system of rotation for shirts, underwear, trousers, socks.   Where the cleaned clothes go into the back of the queue.  A first in first out system.

  • I feel like I'm beginning to get there. Finding out about the Autism made things a lot clearer for me. I used to be a costumier, I gave it up because I wasn't able to cope. I went into 'normal' jobs, retail, admin etc, and got more miserable as the time passed. The more depressed I got, the more I stopped doing what I enjoyed. Last year, around the same time I found out that I was probably autistic, I discovered Historybounding. I also saw the bushfires back home and realised that I wanted to make some environmental changes. Now, while nothing is happening at work, I'm focusing on bringing my sewing skills up to scratch, I'm going to focus on period garments for myself which will help me to re-learn dress history and also give me something to wear. I'll also use natural fibres so I know that I'm doing something to help the environment. It ticks many boxes for me and just generally makes me happy.

  • This is an unbelievably common ASD problem.   I solved by having 3 sets of clothes - smart (shirt & tie) for work and places where type 2 (casual) wasn't appropriate - typically jogging bottoms & top.        Type 3 is messy clothing-  things for when I'm doing hard or dirty work.     

    Obviously, women have a much wider palette to select from so it's hard to choose - but are also more able to wear inappropriate things and get away with it with no-one batting an eyelid..

    What is expected?