Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi everyone,
Do you have a sense of style and clear expression of your identity and tastes in your clothing? I really struggle to form a clear style and I end up feeling scruffy instead of purposefully put together. I've been looking at capsule wardrobes to see if I can fix this and find a bit of fashion sense. Curious if anyone else struggles with this? It doesn't help that I have to go into shops and feel everything, try the fit etc and can't just shop online like a lot of people do these days.
This has stemmed from me wanting to make a good impression in my new job, which has a bit more of a formal dress code than my last one.
There are certain shops that everyone goes on about - and I can't find anything I like in them. I think some shops do a personal shopper service but I don't know if it costs extra. I keep buying stuff and then giving it away if it doesn't suit me - but when I find something good, I buy a few in different colours - but then half the time some of the colours don't suit me! I might go minimalist one day and buy multiple copies of the exact same outfit!
i'm pretty much the same.
I wear the same things over and over and over again until they are so shabby and tatty that they fall apart,
I wear a rotating set of near-identical clothes until they get old / damaged / worn out and become type-3 work clothes for building stuff. As things shuffle down the line, the set get topped up.by new things.
How are you with label-irritation?
No! I have no style or taste in clothing whatsoever I don't even have an ability to match the colours of my clothing... if I could, I would only wear jeans and t-shirts, and I much prefer shorts to trousers, so I often don't even bother with trousers or jeans. I don't like coloured clothing either. I wear mainly entirely black and white clothes. Black jeans, white t-shirts, black or white underwear. I wear the same things over and over and over again until they are so shabby and tatty that they fall apart, and then I go out and search for exactly the same item. If something is comfortable, I will take it off, wash, dry it, then put it back on rather than put something else on. I can only wear certain fabrics too. I can't wear anything fluffy or wooly; no scratchy jumpers; no shirts, or any clothing that touches under my chin. I can only wear short, cotton, trainer socks. Any socks that touch my shins or that are remotely bulky irritate me to the point of distraction and I have to rip them off.It's inexplicable, and I've never understood why this is the case, but it's been the cause of so many problems!
This is an unbelievably common ASD problem. I solved by having 3 sets of clothes - smart (shirt & tie) for work and places where type 2 (casual) wasn't appropriate - typically jogging bottoms & top. Type 3 is messy clothing- things for when I'm doing hard or dirty work.
Obviously, women have a much wider palette to select from so it's hard to choose - but are also more able to wear inappropriate things and get away with it with no-one batting an eyelid..
What is expected?