What scares you ?

You mean you are you afraid of being stupid?

Talking to people who I don't know but need for some social service or medical need.

Sam.Eastman.15 said:

I don’t understand what’s going on in a situation when confronted by someone.

I had a strange confrontation walking my dog in the direction of three neighbours having a chat of which two was a married couple. I stopped to join in (a rarety as I don't usually)  The wife directed a comment to me that I did not hear properly owing to my tinnitus. Her husband immediately jumped in saying "that was a kick in the guts" I didn't wish to cause a ruction in front of the third neighbour by asking the wife to repeat what she had said so I ignored it. This confirmed for me what I already knew, and what I had stated in a much earlier thread. I have no problem with 121 engagement however two or more people in a group is a totally different dynamic and it usually singles me out in some negative way with a focus on my accent, or my origins, or my reluctance to engage socially owing to the first two focal points.

Hi Ann.

I can substitute the word "scared" in your post with the words "occasionally conscious."

I'm glad to be this way because being aware (even occasionally) reminds me to keep checking for ways and means to improve my life.

There's a piece of "stupid-o-clock" motivational positivity for myself.....thanks for the catalyst Ann.  Happy Sunday.

Failure. though I also go through existential crisis which can lead to terrifying thoughts. I am scared of being lazy and stupid and not trying hard enough and messing up my life. I am scared that I upset people or that I get things wrong. I am scared of being alone. 

For me big crowds scare me and when I don’t understand what’s going on in a situation when confronted by someone.

WiredDifferently said:

a dialogue of beauty and love,

explore this symposium of beauty and love:

llresearch.org and how we fit in the big picture.

I think what scares me is not being able to relax, relatively, and find a way of working to somewhere near the level I am capable of - which is to say. I know how great I am as a human, how unique, but I am scared that I cannot share any of that, in any way in the commercial world.  In the same direction I am scared that I will not be able to share my wild, insane, freewheeling, love-filled spontaneity with anyone - friends or lovers - its something I’ve always wanted and never really got near, because its sort of hard explaining to people what makes me tick.

On the plus side, the following things don’t scare me very often:

1. Death - well in the moment it does, then I remind myself that death is really just the thought of death and in the hierarchy of things that bother my mind, it comes pretty low on the totem poll, because once you have let that thing go, and seen that you can actually let go of it, then it makes many situations easier where fear of death might sort of get in the way or cramp my style.  Not that I go looking for death, but if it happens to rear its head, I can take it as something that happens but if I’m happy doing what I want in life and going in a direction that I think is worthy and creative, then I’ll pay the price or take the consequences, if I have to.
2. My Insignificance in the sight of the enormity of it all - well yes, my mind is a candle flickering in the wind of the enormity of the vast cosmic mind, the meagre spark of what makes me who I am counts for nothing, I am a product of the whole, I am a product of the collective, apart from the fact I am not - the greatest principle of the universe, beauty, beats strongly in me, and having seen the beauty of myself and the beauty of universe, and the potential beauty of what conscious intelligence might became over the millennia, how the great dialogue between all conscious beings might rapidly evolve to the point where the endless dialogue we all partake in every day of our lives, become a dialogue, not of truth, or territory, or power, but a dialogue of beauty and love, where we say things not because they are true, or make us money, but purely because they are beautiful, interesting, challenging, fascinating, maddening and have never been said before.

My work focused my attention in coastal towns and villages with an occasional  shorline visit I found refreshing.

I'm certainly scared by the amount of ignorance and prejudice I'm seeing in my workplace at the moment, it's shocking.

Illness.

People.

Spiders.

My mum!

Death.

Dogs.

Myself - I scare me more than anything, more so since my mental health went on a downward spiral. When that happened I became aware of how frightening my brain can be.

I think I'm over the worst now but it's scary to be aware of how dark my brain can go.

TV adverts.

I'm scared of the way social values have already changed e.g. respectability has seemingly evaporated in youth. Walking to my local Post Office a youngster on his bike found it necessary to stop next to me to blow a "raspbury" in my face. In my youth --- if I had done that ---  I'd have received a damb good slapping accross my face 

Yes. There was an episode of Blake’s Seven, a sci-fi series on bbc, where a ship defended itself against boarders by causing hallucinations in the mind of the boarders.

Mister.

You make a very good point.

There have been periods in my life when I have been very scared of myself.  Very scared indeed.

In these times, I did not wish to be around people whom I cared about because I feared that my presence in their life could only end up being a negative one.

The thing is though, I have come to understand that it is INTENT that matters more than fear, in the vast majority of perilous situations and in one's own perception of yourself.

If you are scared of yourself, it implies that you have some sort of "power potential".  That is a good start.

Power can be harnessed for good or ill.  If you have no INTENTION of doing something that merits you being scared.....then you shouldn't be scared.  If you scare yourself because of some external circumstance or situation, then it is important to acknowledge that it is not YOU that scares you, but that circumstance or situation.

So....[flipping heck, apologies that this has all turned a bit Alan Watts on your a ss Mister], in my personal experience, respect for yourself is reassuringly close to fearing yourself - so it's not that hard to slide from one to the other.

I became happier, my friend, when I remembered how to respect myself again.

Very best wishes

Number.

I find I scare myself a great deal of the time, as the brain is by far the greatest weapon we have and most of the time it's in control and we're passengers on this journey of life. With depression and mental health problems I often feel terrified of myself.

Yes, she scares the living daylights out of me as well!

Solomon puts it this way. 

“So remember your Creator while you are still young, before those dismal days and years come when you will say, “I don’t enjoy life.” That is when the light of the sun, the moon, and the stars will grow dim for you, and the rain clouds will never pass away. Then your arms, that have protected you, will tremble, and your legs, now strong, will grow weak. Your teeth will be too few to chew your food, and your eyes too dim to see clearly. Your ears will be deaf to the noise of the street. You will barely be able to hear the mill as it grinds or music as it plays, but even the song of a bird will wake you from sleep. You will be afraid of high places, and walking will be dangerous. Your hair will turn white; you will hardly be able to drag yourself along, and all desire will be gone.”

should be. but yeah its at age 70 that my gen can claim it.

if it goes up anymore it will be pointless and none existant.... it will go up more, as thats progress, things go up, they never come down, like food prices. even when the situation is reversed they never put prices back down.

 Assuming of course there still is a state pension