Published on 12, July, 2020
I've realised that people prefer it if I start with pleasantries, not just going straight to the point of what I want to say.
e.g. just now I went to get my recycling bin after it had been emptied. At least I thought it was my bin. I saw my neighbour getting into his car so I called 'is this my bin?' He looked blankly at me and said, 'hello, how are you? Haven't seen you for a while.' I was confused, I needed to know if that bin was mine or his. He was confused because he hadn't seen me for a while and wanted to say hello, not talk about bins.
Then it dawned on me, ta dahhhhhhhhhh! I should have said 'hello how are you?' Before launching into the questions about the bin.
I like to get straight to the point, never mind chit chat. Most humans prefer the chit chat first.
I hope this has been helpful
Yes. It's borne of loneliness and fear. I live on a lonely, dark lane so I made an effort to get to know the nearest neighbours.
It was fine living here when I was a working, independent woman hardly at home. But when I became a frightened and exhausted new mum with a little child, being alone at home all day with no support was horrible.
I know what you mean but that is a very sad view of life. Humans are social creatures, we're meant to live in a supportive tribe, not everyone separate and isolated. We aren't orang utans. We're meant to like each other.
That's a sensible approach. And it's important to have good support around you, in whatever shape it takes. I have some great neighbours, and we help each other. I regularly look after my neighbours cats and dog when she's away. It's just when they try to chat to me socially or about trivia that my interest declines. Unless it's relevant to the situation, I'm simply not interested.
I think he should say PEOPLE not WOMEN.
It's not other people's job to like us. That's our job. We really only have one job in life and that's to like ourselves. For most people though, including myself, it's a full-time job with no annual leave. And the benefits of liking oneself is that it sets the bar for how others view us. It's much easier to like someone who likes themselves. It's hard work trying to like someone who doesn't like themselves.
It's self preservation for me. I am usually alone at home all day, I need to be able to turn to my neighbours when I feel attacked or scared.
Also when my daughter was very ill, I was alone at home with her all day. I couldn't get to the shops for bread and milk etc, so I made friends with my neighbours and they would go to the shops to buy things for me.
Are you replying to me? I'm learning to be friendly towards my neighbours, generally because I need them. When bad things happen, we need people around us to support us. People on the internet aren't any good because they are miles away.
e.g. when a man drove his car into my fence and broke it, my neighbours rushed out of their houses to defend me.
Generally I'm good at surface level conversations with people...it's just I can't get to the 'being friends with people' stage.
Hm, yes. I prefer people who can deal with me. Not wimps who are shocked by my bluntness. Toughen up, people.
Be myself, all alone. I have one husband and one daughter, no one else seems to like me. Hey ho.
So annoying isn't it. Why can't people cut to the chase without woffling?
That made me laugh so much! So true!
I don't know if this is off-topic or not, but I'm generally disinterested in neighbourly gossip or chit chat. Unless I know someone really well, it's an effort to be interested in what strangers or acquaintances chatter about without any pre-warning. I simply find myself smiling and nodding, and then, without thinking, blurting out, "Sorry, I'm late for [insert wherever I'm going]"
That is a helpful tip for future interactions with neighbours. Do you find it difficult to talk to neighbours generally? Or just the 'getting straight to the point' part of the conversation?
you forgot to mention sex
you should really follow Tassimo's advice and update your experiences with non-family members
Desmond, you're allowing distorted thoughts and attitudes about women creep into your world view. I think you should spend some times with women (other than you relatives) and update your experiences. Have you ever considered dating?
Be yourself, Kiki. No one an do it as well as you.
what all women in the world are the same ?
Desmond79 said:Their life evolves around TV, Drinking, Smoking, Eating and Talking.
really ?
KikiCat The ShockTrooper (republic version of storm troopers)
entry with style, so shocking
your bluntness seems to me funny like that,
I enjoy finding ways to see duality in everything
then it's truth and joke at the same time p
Also you are writing in a foreign language I believe? No harm done.