Published on 12, July, 2020
I've realised that people prefer it if I start with pleasantries, not just going straight to the point of what I want to say.
e.g. just now I went to get my recycling bin after it had been emptied. At least I thought it was my bin. I saw my neighbour getting into his car so I called 'is this my bin?' He looked blankly at me and said, 'hello, how are you? Haven't seen you for a while.' I was confused, I needed to know if that bin was mine or his. He was confused because he hadn't seen me for a while and wanted to say hello, not talk about bins.
Then it dawned on me, ta dahhhhhhhhhh! I should have said 'hello how are you?' Before launching into the questions about the bin.
I like to get straight to the point, never mind chit chat. Most humans prefer the chit chat first.
I hope this has been helpful
That is a helpful tip for future interactions with neighbours. Do you find it difficult to talk to neighbours generally? Or just the 'getting straight to the point' part of the conversation?
Are you replying to me? I'm learning to be friendly towards my neighbours, generally because I need them. When bad things happen, we need people around us to support us. People on the internet aren't any good because they are miles away.
e.g. when a man drove his car into my fence and broke it, my neighbours rushed out of their houses to defend me.
Generally I'm good at surface level conversations with people...it's just I can't get to the 'being friends with people' stage.