Sick to death of humanity

So sorry you did leave in the end but I hope you will be feeling brighter soon and then come back when you feel ready ^^ 

Thinking of you x

For what it's worth, I didn't feel much of a connection when I first joined a few months ago but now that's changed I'm pleased to say. I feel I belong with this community and that I'm with people who understand and care. It took a while for me to feel that but now I do it's a nice feeling.

I'm so very sorry you decided to leave, you'll undoubtedly be missed. I hope at some point you will reconsider and join us again.

This is why I like cats. You always know exactly where you stand  with a cat. 

I'd never put it into words, but yeah, I don't think I've EVER "looked forwards to something" and been satisfied when I got it.. All my wins come as a nice surprise...

Desmond79 said:

I feel that less expectations lead to better days.

I have found this to be true for myself.

Most people are selfish and out for themselves, I have found in my own personal experiences that autistic people tend to be a lot less selfish. I think the majority of us just want a peaceful quiet life. I know I do. I try to find joy in the small things. Whether it’s my cat being cute, the sunrise, eating a favorite food. It can be hard to not get weighed down by the negatives of life.

You will find your community. It takes time to connect. I've spent most of my life not fitting in, I suspect it will be the same here but I hope not.

I was about to do just that there with your reply (but have decided to reply too) 

I also sometimes do this rather than reply.

Allyboo said:

I like to do 'likes' (like I've done on your post right there) sometimes as I hope it helps people feel 'seen and heard' a bit, rather than not

Me too.

I also sometimes do this rather than reply.

I like to do 'likes' (like I've done on your post right there) sometimes as I hope it helps people feel 'seen and heard' a bit, rather than not

Wise words

My Papa would say that if youre pessimistic you actually end up happier. Like if you go to a party thinking itll be rubbish, then anything better than your expectation will make you have a good time. But if you go thinking itll be amazing, and its anything less then youll be dissapointed. 

People ultimately let us down. I let some down, some let me down. That's life.

I feel that less expectations lead to better days.

I never felt any bond with humanity or like I belonged anywhere. I always felt like an outsider and like I didn't belong or understand my fellow human, to the point where I didn't used to think I was human growing up.

But autistic or not, you don't need to share an affinity with anyone; you are an individual, and from what I've learnt getting along with people always involves compromise. There is nobody out there who is just a clone of your opinions, I've basically hated everyone I've ever met and then abandoned people because I wanted to be alone and it all got too much. I hope you know you can always come back.

With autism it can feel very isolating even when surrounded by others.

Former Member, I hope that you are only temporarily hibernating, and haven't left for good.

Based on my own experience here, there are some members that I feel I have a good rapport with, but in the majority of cases it has taken many months to establish that rapport. In my case, it hasn't necessarily had anything to do with having shared interests, but has perhaps been due to being of a similar age, being on a similar wavelength, and/or having similar life experiences.

After I joined the Community, there were members that I didn't think I liked and didn't have much time for. However, with some of those members, I gradually began to see a different side to them and found myself slowly warming to them.

For what it's worth, I have never thought that people with ASD are superior to anyone, just different.

Whilst you may not feel you have a natural bond with any of the members here, I do believe you have created some good and interesting discussions here, and that your presence here would be missed.

Even with the members that I've built up a rapport with, there can be occasions when I feel at odds with them. Sometimes they may say things that I strongly disagree with, cannot relate to, feel irritated by, etc. I dare say that there are occasions when they probably wish I would just shut up and change the record... and that's okay. Why? Because none of us is perfect and it's all part of what makes us human.

I Sperg said:

Sometimes though everyone goes away at the same time, then they all come back seemingly at once

I noticed that too lol. Its like dead for a few hours then all at once posts come out of nowhere and all the new ones get shoved on the later pages. (that may mostly be due to the time difference for me)

Hullabaloo said:

it just comes across that way at times

I know what you mean. Sometimes I feel like leaving when the whole day I make comments that dont get responces or even likes. Then I feel like I said something wrong or that people dont like me, so then I delete all me comments that day and I try not to write anymore

Exactly right. Some posts with zero replies are just "above my paygrade" however, or even sometimes I know that my honest response will not be seen as helpful so I keep quiet. 

Sometimes though everyone goes away at the same time, then they all come back seemingly at once, get notifications of posts they have interacted before, respond to them immediately, and some posts just get pushed out of view really quickly.   

Edit. That happened to my film night posts a few times, and I spent ages wondering if I should keep bumping them up until I got a reply...

People have a lot to say here sometimes, and lone voices can get lost in the noise. 

Yeah, thank you for just making a reply to me. I figured that no one is actively trying to ignore me, but it just comes across that way at times here. I also should make an attempt to read and respond to other people's comments as well. I think that would improve my social relations to others. 

Im sorry. When I see a post with 0 replies, I try to reply something (which is why some of my comments are completely useless) because I know how awful it feels to not be included. Im sure nobody here is trying to outcast you