What do people have anxieties over?

There are so many snails and slugs around the garden I was worried they'd just end up as food for them as they desecrate plants so quickly, some flowers are just up 2 nights and they're grey mush by the third night, it's taken several attempts to keep the 4 in the garden protected and the birds have an appetite for their leaves too.

I have a great close up video of a big black slug munching through a big mushroom in the woods, it's amazing how quickly it was getting through it, after seeing that I understood why the flowers were going so quickly.

That's great thinking out of step but they're all in pots except 4!

yea i do that as well for high drainage areas. sometimes i leave the lid and top on but make small holes with soldering iron so it spreads more.

Get some 2 litre bottles and cut the bottoms off. 

Take the lids off and put lid side down into the soil. Fill up with water from the top (which is actually the bottom you cut off) et voila! The plants will take the water they need as and when. If they are in the ground there shoukd be enough rootage to go searching for water for a few days anyway.

The contaminants in tap water, while I wait on my supposedly therapeutic bath running with two cups of magnesium salts I'm filled with dread at soaking in it, will they get through the pores in my skin, I also hate the taste of it, switching to bottled water because that tastes better but then that's full of microscopic plastics clogging up every blood vessel in my body, non organic chicken and turkey being fed GM corn and minced turkey being one of the few foods I'll eat, the synthetic fragrance smells wafting from neighbors washing when I go out into the garden because some smell in the house is bothering me and I'm getting more and more anxious frantically going around the house trying to sniff it out, having to buy second hand clothes because I hate the smell and feel of most new ones but when I open the packet from eBay of the top I bought the laundry fragrance from that makes me drop the pack run for a mask, put rubber gloves on to handle it wash it in the machine 6 times with my ecover zero laundry liquid before I can wear it, odours are particulates and I'm very visual with all these things too so in my mind I see them stuck to all the hairs inside my nostrils which means I won't get rid of them = the smell won't go = more anxiety, my friend giving me a packet of sunflower seeds to grow and not realising I didn't need to sew them all so I end up with 44 minature sunflowers to look after which totally overwhelms me resulting in me  refusing to go camping now because no one can come and water them for me while I'm away and in this heat they need watered three times per day but I've come this far and have to see it through to the end, I think the point I'm making here is the anxiety over the expectation of the gifted seeds.

Tiny, tiny, fraction of my anxieties and that's before I've even began interacting with people.

I read a post on here which explained the difference between anxiety and stress, I think as many others on here, the above is a combination.

Not that I want to find out.

actually, with most pornography and I don't know if it would be worse or less worse watching those things in person or not.

Caelus said:

i consider most humans unhygenic and disgusting

There are so many anxieties I have from every single action I take from the minute I get up, that while I try to list them - if I can as I'm already getting anxious thinking about them all - so will probably avoid it now - Caelus quote is exactly what I think with some pornography.

I have never really thought about it like this, I always assumed anxiety and stress are the same thing but this actually makes a lot more sense. I searched it up and found these definitions to help describe the differences:

stress is typically caused by an external trigger. The trigger can be short-term, such as a work deadline or a fight with a loved one or long-term, such as being unable to work, discrimination, or chronic illness.

Anxiety, on the other hand, is defined by persistent, excessive worries that don’t go away even in the absence of a stressor. 

I think this is something I struggled with in CBT.  I often said "it gives me anxiety but I'm not worried about it". Which is why I think sometimes it's stress more than anx. If too much is demanded of my brain, it's difficult. If something changes to "the plan" in my head, or I haven't had control over something, it can create the same feelings as anxiety. But again, it doesn't feel like worry and that might not be stress as such. It's still a challenge to my brain though! 

Reading through the comments I sort of came to the same kind of idea, I have issues with loads of stuff here and for me it’s not anxiety, its stress and if it’s overwhelming either cumulatively or acutely then it leads to disregulation.

I find the language used is all very NT which makes it harder for us to understand what’s happening. 

So the last episode I had for some reason the DVD player and TV wouldn’t work together, I’d checked the leads, turned everything on and off again checked that nobody had changed anything (no response), it should have worked and I didn’t know why it wouldn’t. I also had my daughter singing loudly behind me (asked to stop but ignored) whilst struggling to check wires behind the TV. I’d had a high intensity morning and I had nothing left and I just needed the DVD to work so I could recharge because I was going to the theatre in the evening. None of that was anxiety it was all stress but it triggered a shut down. I spent half an hour in a darkened room waiting for an apology from  someone who had no idea how they had affected me before getting on with the rest of the day.

Opening my mail box because I hate bad news such as bills, debt collector letters, letters from landlord about rent increases or eviction.

A few years ago when my mail box was overflowing, I emptied all it's contents into a plastic shopping bag and threw it in the bin, without reading any letters.

Waking up in the morning! Not whether I will or won't.  Just general morning anxiety a lot of the time.

I get anxiety when a familiar place suddenly changes. For example my best friend changed where her kitchen table was after 14 years. 

Being late, or rather not being as early as I like.

Being unable to predict an event, or my predictions being incorrect.

Traveling to somewhere new by myself.

Using unfamiliar technology or having to use tech in an unfamiliar way.

Feeling I am letting someone down when it's beyond my control. 

Not knowing what is expected of me.

Well my worries are the police inappropriately prosecuting autistic people and not then not acknowledging the harm they cause, as well as the waste of public money in doing this. It seems cruel and inappropriate 

yes the big ignored issue

I would get home delivery myself if I was not concerned about what items they might put on my home delivery order. My main concern about getting home food delivery is the Best Before and use by dates. I like Best before and use by dates to be well in advance so I go to the supermarket. Although I try to go at quieter times of the day like early in the morning to avoid the crowds. Obviously I don't like crowds myself but that is just because of trying to dodge people and getting delayed and also with the Covid situation makes me anxious of being in crowds. 

Thank you. 

welcom to this forum community.autism.org.uk/.../nas74376

Haha .  You won't like me then Morgan. I had many  of those traits which you mentioned before like out of date food and overfilling the kettle etc certainly when I was living on my own. Now I am living with my uncle. I am much better. Normally I am very particular on eating food and I don't like eating it past the Best Before/use date. When I go food shopping I try to make sure that I buy food well in advance of Best Before or use by dates but occasionally I have maybe bought a bit too much and it does go past the date that it should be eaten. It is the same with the other things you mentioned like overfilling the kettle or leaving the electricity on when it is not being used. I used to have some of those traits. But my uncle always checks around the house as he is the owner and I am much better at those things and do those things very rarely now or not at all now.