Hello all.
- What do you have anxieties over? I have anxieties about food, my health and online security amongst other things..
Hello all.
Revealing a very dark side of me when provoked (anger). I am either calm or the complete opposite, no middle switch, and when I try to have a middle switch people think otherwise.
Going places suddenly - I need to be notified in advance.
Not having a purpose for going somewhere - just going someplace to hang out or chill is weird to me.
Not being able to communicate verbally with someone and be understood, as in you don't speak the same language.
Talking to people I don't know. If there's a clear functional purpose, as in might occur at a work place, that's different, but otherwise I hate it.
Dealing with socially confrontational situations.
Social events where I do not have a clear understanding of the purpose of the event.
Intimacy - I didn't even hug my own family members, excepting my mother and she always initiated, until I was in my late teens, and I still feel weird about touch interactions with my closest friend of 20+ years.
There are other things, but those are the main ones.
Dentists, doctors, phone calls, emails, being in a supermarket, new situations, races and fitness, my teeth, my health (e.g. mistakenly thinking I have cancer or I'm having a heart attack), the idea of getting pregnant, my academic performance, my future...
I try to laugh about it. It's hard work continuously having to psyche yourself up for everyday things, but then... normal people have to go on a rollercoaster or something to get this kind of daily adrenaline buzz.
I don't like job interviews video or face to face. Although I maybe prefer the video more than the face to face then I don't have to worry if I am going to get there on time or not. I had a video job interview a few weeks ago. I did a lot of preparation for it and did research on the company I put an application for a job with, I prepared for what questions they might ask me about how my experience is relevant to the job I applied for and when it came to the actual interview I could not think of some of the answers to the questions they asked even after all the preparation I had done. I had the notes. But it is better not to look at the notes during the interview. They want you to think on the spot of the answers to their questions. And I am not very good at thinking on the spot my mind just goes blank. I have not heard back from the the people who interviewed me, so I think it is safe to say that I have not passed.
I've had interviews that started well, then, instead of becoming more relaxed as the interview progressed, I have become increasingly anxious. Aware that everything was going downhill, but unable to rectify it. Interviewers tend to ask unanswerable questions, like, "Where do you see yourself in 5 years time?" What?! I'm not a Soviet economic plan, I don't know where I'll be in a month's time.
Communicating my dislike of something to people I like AND people I really DON'T like. I usually have to ask someone else I trust before I blurt the words out/hit send to avoid offending the person my messages's aimed at.
Going to the dr's. Ilnesses make me panic and doctors make me panic. Panicking makes it difficult to communicate my concerns properly and ask for clarifications when I don't understand something. Which makes me panic even more. So I break down and can't talk/start stuttering.
Serious changes at work. Annual reviews, changing teams due to company restructuring during covid quarantine, line managers seeing my great work and expecting me to always want more and higher positions (which often involves managing people; even though it doesn't show, I feel can't manage myself efficiency enough sometimes, how am I supposed to manage other people??).
Using user un-friendly websites and apps. "you had one job" instantly springs to mind. Like back when I was self employed and I had to submit tax returns. Used to hate it soooooooo much!
Meeting new people. Don't think I need to explain this one.
Changes to any and all kinds of plans. Especially when it's because someone didn't do what they were supposed to do/didn't keep their word about something.
And the list goes on and on unfortunately
Job interviews are bad, really stressful. I was the 'technical expert' on a job interview panel once (for the post of scientific director of a biotechnology start-up company) and it was only slightly less stressful than being an interviewee.
yes sometimes the dread arrives in the morning
Hi NAS49761, (apologies for only picking this up now). I try to make sure that I'm clear on the information before I offer it, but I have noticed that even when I am, I have a tendency to use phrases like 'I think', or 'possibly' as if I'm not sure. I know it's not an ideal response. Perhaps by doing this, I'm ensuring that I have given information to the best of my knowledge, but I've not given any kind of guarantee that it's correct. That leaves them open to either take the information, or leave it and find confirmation elsewhere. As I said, not an ideal response. It always depends on how confident I am with the information as to if I fall back on this but there are times it is useful.
I find the language used is all very NT which makes it harder for us to understand what’s happening.
Hello LongSpoons, are you meaning the language used here in the posts being very NT?
If so, it is very common for Autistic people to be far better at written communication than verbal and therefore to 'pass' as NT. This came up in my assessment as it was something I never understood about myself, was that contrast, between verbal and written communication, until my OT explained it, then it made sense.
If you had a face to face conversation with me you would not be hearing what you are reading now.
I also get severe anxiety when I give the wrong information out.
Hello Loz, massive one for me too, how do you manage this? as I HAVE to correct it even if I'm told it makes no difference to anything as in my head it absolutely does as nothing will go right until I do.
Thanks out_of_step, though no rain yet! Everything is very dry.
I'll make a start with the bottles!
Other people's reaction towards my decisions.
Waiting.
Having to spend a long time in a place; whenever I want to just take photos and go.
Having an accident when driving.
Hearing voices in my head of those I know who won't take 'No' for an answer.
Being up all night; then waiting for the shops to reopen in the morning.
Slugs are quick buggers! Yes it'd work in pots too. Altho I think with all this rain you'll be fine anyway!
