Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello,
It is quite late but I cannot sleep at this time. I have always liked to be on my own most of the time but sometimes I feel a bit lonely. So, as of now, I have literally no friends (both online and in person) and I feel like I am upset by this. However, I have found it hard to interest other people and keep friends that I have made in the past as I am not good at communication and not talkative enough. This has been a life long issue for me. I never really had friends but wanted to have some.
I now feel lonely and would like to discuss things I am interested with, with other people and thought maybe those who have difficulties with communication will be more understanding. So, maybe I can meet people on here or maybe be informed about autistic groups in London area if there are any. I am quite nervous about speaking to people online hence not doing this before but it was suggested that I give it a go.
Thank you
Jai (Nickname)
Hello Squid,
Sorry for the late reply. I haven’t been on here for the holidays. I live in London too, but a am a girl. Take care.
Jai
I am in London, if you are a guy we can be friends, and meet up with other Autistic people. We could do things or talk
Your welcome
That sounds really nice. I do find some old buildings scary though. That’s for your reply.
I enjoy taking photos of sunset, sunrise, old buildings and flowers.
I have realised that drinking alcohol is not common in people on the spectrum. Even those who are higher functioning. I know why I don’t but I wonder about some of the different reasons why people with ASD don’t too. Jai
Hello Juice Queen,
Thank you very much. It’s nice to know I am not alone and that others understand me. I relate with what you said about wanting to be far away from people but wanting to talk with people too. It’s really hard. I think we want to be social but we are finding it difficult because of the autism so we’d rather be alone. I don’t really know. It’s very confusing. I accept your virtual hug. Take care. Jai
Hello Zengarden,
Thank you very much. I also like colouring books. What kind of photography do you do? Is it nature based? I like nature photos. Take care. Jai
Hello Lucy,
Thank you for your reply. I really relate and sympathies with you. I agree that defining what friends are to you to your friends would be important though difficult. I think that the fact that it is anonymous was what was making me anxious but now that I have got more involved in the community, I am not feeling very anxious anymore. Everyone seems very nice so far. Take care. Jai
Hello FrozenHeart,
Thank you so much for your reply. It’s nice to know I am not alone as sometimes it feels that way. So far, I feel very welcomed thank you. Take care. Jai
Hello, I think my anxiety stops me from doing this. I am getting better with speaking to people when necessary though like making a point in lessons. Take care. Jai
Hello A Potato,
Thank you very much for your reply. I really appreciate your message and agree on what you said about making friends even without autism. I would like to speak with you. I just need to work how to work out how to work the website. I am new here. Take care. Jai
Indeed. I'm hoping that with support and therapy it'll become easier to take that first step.
There are probably other more fulfilling methods, like increasing your self confidence that will make it easier to say Hi but at the end of the day it will always be scary but the more you do it the less scary it will become, it is just a matter of taking that first step, which is easy to say and hard to do.
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Hmm, maybe this is why people drink alcohol at social events? So that they can get the courage to just go up to people around them and say "hi" without overthinking? Hopefully someday I'll be able to do that... the saying "hi" part, not the alcohol haha
I liked your message. Honestly, I think it really is that simple. At least in my case I tend to overthink everything and can't get my mind to switch off but it probably is as simple as going up to people and asking to be friends. Not random people, maybe try going to places that you like or doing something that you might enjoy and try to strike up a conversation.
Damn, I relate a lot to both this post and its replies. I think it's very safe to say that you're not alone here.
I have no clue how one makes friends in this day and age as an adult, and that can be really frustrating. Even if autism wasn't a factor, it's not like one can go up to random people and ask them to be friends, eh? haha
If you, or anyone else reading this ever wants to just talk about anything in PMs, I'll be happy to as I'm also struggling a lot with loneliness and, even if we don't end up becoming friends, it'll be nice to stimulate the social part of my brain to avoid cobwebs forming there once in a while haha. Of course there's no pressure either, as I know how scary it can be to message people one doesn't know.
Hi Jai. Welcome. I'm sorry you find yourself in this situation but I do completely understand, this really resonates with me. Everyday I just want to be as far away from people as possible, but at the same time, want people to talk to me and friends to hang out with. I get exhausted at even the smallest of interactions but I deep down still want those interactions. It's such a confusing mess...
I wish there was something I could do to help you with this but it's a major problem for me as well. Sends virtual hugs, if accepted.
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