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Jai

Hello,

It is quite late but I cannot sleep at this time. I have always liked to be on my own most of the time but sometimes I feel a bit lonely. So, as of now, I have literally no friends (both online and in person) and I feel like I am upset by this. However, I have found it hard to interest other people and keep friends that I have made in the past as I am not good at communication and not talkative enough. This has been a life long issue for me. I never really had friends but wanted to have some.

I now feel lonely and would like to discuss things I am interested with, with other people and thought maybe those who have difficulties with communication will be more understanding. So, maybe I can meet people on here or maybe be informed about autistic groups in London area if there are any. I am quite nervous about speaking to people online hence not doing this before but it was suggested that I give it a go.

Thank you

Jai (Nickname)

  • Hi Jai Blush recognizing this is 10 months late, I'd like to be friends Slight smile feel free to contact me on [content removed by Moderator due to breaches of the online community rules and guidelines] 

  • in reply to Squid

    Hello Squid,

    Sorry for the late reply. I haven’t been on here for the holidays. I live in London too, but a am a girl. Take care.

    Jai

  • I am in London, if you are a guy we can be friends, and meet up with other Autistic people. We could do things or talk

  • in reply to Juice Queen

    Hello Juice Queen,

    Thank you very much. It’s nice to know I am not alone and that others understand me. I relate with what you said about wanting to be far away from people but wanting to talk with people too. It’s really hard. I think we want to be social but we are finding it difficult because of the autism so we’d rather be alone. I don’t really know. It’s very confusing. I accept your virtual hug. Take care. Jai

  • in reply to NAS90675

    Hello Lucy,

    Thank you for your reply. I really relate and sympathies with you. I agree that defining what friends are to you to your friends would be important though difficult. I think that the fact that it is anonymous was what was making me anxious but now that I have got more involved in the community, I am not feeling very anxious anymore. Everyone seems very nice so far. Take care. Jai

  • in reply to A Potato

    Hello A Potato,

    Thank you very much for your reply. I really appreciate your message and agree on what you said about making friends even without autism. I would like to speak with you. I just need to work how to work out how to work the website. I am new here. Take care. Jai

  • Damn, I relate a lot to both this post and its replies. I think it's very safe to say that you're not alone here. 

    I have no clue how one makes friends in this day and age as an adult, and that can be really frustrating. Even if autism wasn't a factor, it's not like one can go up to random people and ask them to be friends, eh? haha

    If you, or anyone else reading this ever wants to just talk about anything in PMs, I'll be happy to as I'm also struggling a lot with loneliness and, even if we don't end up becoming friends, it'll be nice to stimulate the social part of my brain to avoid cobwebs forming there once in a while haha. Of course there's no pressure either, as I know how scary it can be to message people one doesn't know. 

  • Hi Jai. Welcome. I'm sorry you find yourself in this situation but I do completely understand, this really resonates with me. Everyday I just want to be as far away from people as possible, but at the same time, want people to talk to me and friends to hang out with. I get exhausted at even the smallest of interactions but I deep down still want those interactions. It's such a confusing mess...

    I wish there was something I could do to help you with this but it's a major problem for me as well. Sends virtual hugs, if accepted.

  • Hi Jai! 

    I'll be your friend, my name's Lucy. I have started to struggle with communication the more I unmask. I also find it hard to make friends because I don't know what to talk about. Its helped me to redefine what I mean by 'friends' for other people it might mean speaking regularly and going to events and things but for me it means someone whose in my life who I like. And I don't need to speak to them a certain amount for it to count as friends, it counts if I say it does. Also this webpage is anonymous so no one knows who anyone is, does that make you feel less nervous?