Life is hard

Hi Katy, I am sorry to hear how difficult things are at the moment. 

Finding support is hard and the lack of services out there is incredibly frustrating. 

I hope you are soon able to find the care and support you need and deserve. 

Hannah 

Meltdowns are like sneezes or orgasms.

When one arrives, it's HERE 

Whether it's a big loud attention getting deal, or passes quickly and quietly, can be controlled with a bit of practice in either case... 

Now that you know and can come here and can see a bunch of Autists presenting themselves in this medium, you can can find and execute little strategies that were previously unavailable to you to make yours and others lives better. It's not all bad news...

Thank you.

1. You have the names, I invite you to do your own research, as knowledge you acquire for yourself is harder to dismiss out of hand, and the knowledge that you or any other diligent student after the truth might acquire I found causes cognitive dissonance and can be upsetting. 

2. Shaping and influence european and other  societies, without having our informed consent and a mandate from us to lead these changes.. I've been working the problem of how do we stop this process for over twenty years, because it is a "fixing" type of problem, and those interest me. Essentially the solution I believe is not to invent new "truths", every six but focus on getting better at recognising and living in the one real underlying truth. OR as a very underrated saying pithily puts it, "Keep it real, folks" 

3. Our current society. the fact that so many people now utterly believe the most wild and patently false conspiracy theories, because they simply lack critical thinking skills, which are an essential survival tool, and when they find out that outsourcing their thinking to "authorities" has led to them accepting a whole load of poisonous hogwash, suddenly find themselves cast adrift from reality even further! Because the whistleblower/alt knowledge field is just as infected with lies as the mainstream, people who lack critical thinking skills just swap one set of lies for another.. 

4. No, and I thought only one of the two progressive thinkers I mentioned was "Jewish" (whatever that might actually mean) Although Barbra Lerner Spectre is super clear about what she thinks and explains how she sees the Jewish role in our problems, it's the systemic and organised dismantling of our way of life, and our casual acceptance of that which I find of particular significance, and the sneaky way it has been done which I find objectionable. If the leaders I cited happen really be both Jewish, well that's just a cohencidence!

Keep asking questions and trying to get to the truth, and an awful lot of human current events start to make a lot more sense. The trick is not to lose your objectivity and fall into blamecasting, hatred or victimisation. We ALL make this world what it is, and the one thing that the "commies" have right, is that improving it will be take a  collective effort, But for all of us to play a part we ALL need to play a part, not outsource the effort to a few heirophants and then just slavishly obey their directions without further consideration.. 

I Sperg said:

the experiments being carried out by Barbara Lerner specter, Yuval Harari, and their ilk on our societies (why do we let them?) will start to bear less poisonous fruit than I've observed so far...

Expand and explain please.

I've gauged from reading their bios that they are both Jewish but I'm not sure what else includes them in your term 'their ilk'?

So, I'd like to know please:

1.  What are the 'experiments'?

2.  What it is we are 'letting' them do, and how we can stop them, if required?

3.  What is the 'poisonous fruit'?

4.  Is their being Jewish of significance in your singling them out?

The book I recommend in my bio will teach you the basic mechanics of how "friendships" work. Read it at your own pace in your own time and you almost certainly will have a number of "aha" moments that I found will help you manage people better. 

Essentially I've found that obtaining friends is about sharing activities and interests and also knowing how to treat people nice, both of which are covered quite well in that book.

I found after reading it in my twenties that my life improved markedly and steadily.

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And that's why life is so hard currently for a lot of us.

We are trying to live lives which are psychologically and politically divorced from the basic realities of life because we all listen to liars and give them "the benefit of the doubt" instead of shunning them as wiser peoples in other countries do..

Currently the lie being pushed really hard across the whole integrated media system is that white Europeans have a history that we should be especially ashamed of.

Why specifically single us out?

Are we more brutal in our nature as alledged than other races? (An analysis of crime Crime and other social indicator statistics will give you that answer, dead quickly, and impartially) 

WHO is singling us out? (never, ever, pursue an answer t that question, I did and I wish I had not. Seriously, don't ever do that.) 

And more importantly, why is this happening? 

I believe it is because to many of us are incapable of of identifying and resisting lies because it is a skill that is no longer routinely instilled in children, and strongly discouraged in adults.

And we aren't going to fix that by hating each others "-isms", or refusing to deal correctly and rationally with people who hold opinions or knowledge that is different from our own.

Iain said:

It seems the least we as a society can do to redress a historical inequity to give women an equal chance, and that needs to start with bringing them up to parity in the workforce, so an adjustment period needs to happen.

Well that experiment in "equalising employment opportunities" has been running now since before 1980, is it time yet to consider what results are we seeing? 

Was the utter destruction of the human family unit, (which runs on pure sex-ism), our collective health and prosperity, (which depends on running a meritocracy, which in turn involves pretty much ALL the ism's if the selection process works to simply select the best person for the job), worth it?

I was gaslighted about my own attitudes (largely formed by my early life school & religious training) for  years and years until I got the opportunity to travel regularly to another country, Germany and watched the process of lowering standards and open borders being repeated over there. 

It's been fascinating, every time I've gone over there over the last twenty years I see more graffiti, less native Germans, less prosperity and they are just seeing and grumbling about the quality of their health care crumbling... And more of the woke propaganda being talked about. 

I still hope one day that the experiments being carried out by Barbara Lerner specter, Yuval Harari, and their ilk on our societies (why do we let them?) will start to bear less poisonous fruit than I've observed so far...

And to circle round to the original point, after 50 years of opportunity, why is the field of technical  innovation still so utterly male dominated? Could it be that despite 50 years of the best brainwashing our media can deliver, the reality is simply that men have more aptitude and hence interest in techncial and certain topics, and other areas are more suited to the female mind? 

GASP! reality is inherently both sexist and racist .And reality has a great deal of other isms up it's sleeve too. 

Clearly reality is itself politically incorrect and should be avoided as much as possible by the woke.

The truth is out there...

I’m totally opposed to online based counselling over the internet, as this is part of the problem, not part of the solution, despite the fact that there are no or very limited services via the NHS or via autism charities and of those that are provided for adults, they are very expensive and/or require GP referrals, where post-Covid, it’s become almost impossible to even speak to a GP on the phone or online, let alone in person - then if you actually get to speak to a GP, it’s only for one issue at a time and only for 10 mins - even the religious bodies have stopped providing services like the priests and nuns used to do years ago - indeed there was once a time when “mental health issues” were dealt with by speaking to the local Catholic Parish Priest in many a village in Rural Ireland for example and this is something that we really do need to return to 

They could listen to me for a start. They don't even do that. That's obviously not because of lack of funding.

The main support I'd like is someone to teach me how to make friends. Some help with shopping would be good too. The NHS are supposed to help with both those things, but they don't even listen when I ask for help!

I feel like i have been swimming against the tide all my life. I didnt know why? I was told everyone struggles. Everyone gets tired. I was told i suffer with anxiety and depression. For me, It feels like a life sentence. Im stuck on antidepressants, wanting to experience life free from prescribed drugs. Im upset that the medical proffesionals didnt recognise autism in me sooner, instead of switching me from one antidepressant to another and still suffering from what i now understand to have been meltdowns, because i pushed myself like everyone else, and then i suffered. I know im different and not afraid to say it. Im proud, but oh my goodness, im so tired and its relentless. 

1. cultures that have contempt for us ... don't let them into the country ... (I can only end badly, and we have not got the 'badly' yet ... France is getting there)

2. You insist that anyone who comes here lives by our rules.  Allowing them to grape children to appease them so they do not become violent is abhorrent.

3. You apply the rules evenly, and openly and allow unfettered free speech.

But the current left, who are using race as a mechanism to generate hate and division as a mechanism to gain powe (kinda like the 1930s german bad guys did), want to maximise racial tension as they see it as their route to overthrowing the existing power structure so they can take control.  That is what all this is for and they do not care how many suffer for it because they see themselves as so righteous that any price is worth paying.

doh .. i missed an important 'no' there! :-)

Touay said:

I have time for 'it is for a good reason' ... the police and labour councils turned a blind eye to the grapes of hundreds of thousands of British children because they didn't want to 'inflame racial tension'.

So what practical steps do you suggest to remedy that particular issue. You have talked about broad strokes ("dont be racist", "equality under the law" etc) but if there is a simpler solution then I would like to hear it.

The solution needs to incorporate the unpleasant truth that the communities repsponsible are insular, well represented in their own local poitics, have a pre-disposition to violent response to harsh action and many lives would be at risk if they became "inflamed".

I'm genuinely interested if you have a strategy that can deal with this as what I have read about has left many senior commissioners at a loss for an effective plan, and it isn't because they don't want to enforce the law but rather because they are afraid of the consequences.

IrishInManchesterUK said:

it can therefore only be concluded that the LGBT “community” are (deeply) hypocritical when it comes to people with autism 

I think this is also a generational issue - the older generations like us have had to deal with autism without support (and often without even knowing we were autistic) and have taken to masking / scripting to be like the rest in denouncing the newer, more readily supported generation as snowflakes / needy etc.

It may also be because we are detracting from the LGBT focus for recognition by "stealing their thunder" or "muddying the waters".

In spite of what social media seems to show, I think we are becoming a more accepting society but it takes the likes of you and I to stand up and call out those trying to diminish us, whether for our sexuality or the way our mind is wired.

If you want to end racism STOP BEING RACIST!  it isn't that hard.

And no, I have no time for 'it is for a good reason' ... the police and labour councils turned a blind eye to the grapes of hundreds of thousands of British children because they didn't want to 'inflame racial tension'. (that wold be one of those 'good reasons' I keep hearing about).

Equality before the law is the answer to the problem. Do you think that allowing the grapes of British children has been good for race relations?  I think not.  We would have been in a much better place as a country (and certainly the victims would be better off) if the perpetrators of such crimes were prosecuted regardless of their race.

I like this idea, as after Mass, the traditional Latin Mass Catholic Church that I attend has a meet-up afterwards - I used to think that it was a Protestant thing, but it seems to be more popular not just here in the U.K., but also back home in Ireland as well 

Touay said:

I am never going to support racism and we will never get past it when so many are proud to be openly racist.

So when a situation is clearly historically racist or sexist (as proved by the statistics in the staff make-up), would you be unwilling to change it to stop it being racist/sexist?

I'm ashamed of the historic racism and sexism and I want something done about it. How about you? Do you have a better suggestion about how to address this?

As an older gay man with autism myself, it is absolutely criminal that those with autism have faced huge prejudice and discrimination from (within) the LGBT “community” - given that many LGBT’s are known to have autism and vice versa, from people who should know better, we face huge intolerance, prejudice, discrimination, lack of acceptance, discriminatory attitudes, all the very things that LGBT’s want and loudly demand from everyone else - it can therefore only be concluded that the LGBT “community” are (deeply) hypocritical when it comes to people with autism