Published on 12, July, 2020
Like many other days I feel today I could have done so much more. The only thing of note I did today was make boiled brown rice and cabbage with toasted pecan nuts, served with freshly chopped parsley.
Otherwise I've done nothing memorable today. Didn't have the drive in me to read a book, watch a film, pick up the guitar and learn more - that's it.
I want a pet so badly! I grew up with pets and found them so therapeutic. Most landlords (including mine) don't allow pets, so they're not an option for me at the moment. I wish we could have emotional support animals in the UK - in some countries, they have all the privileges of every other assistance dog.
Having a child has helped immensely so I imagine a pet would be similar. Even a small pet requires you to feed/water it, buy supplies, clean the cage, visit the vet etc.
This was a really useful thread, thank you. I wish I had some answers to offer you, I don't right now as I'm kinda in the same boat. Wondering about getting a pet so then I HAVE to regularly look after someone/thing else and it might help me get my act together on other stuff and cure loneliness at the same time.
I know when I’m getting fatigued as this is when I can’t even get motivated to do what I enjoy, and it seems it’s at this moment I get nagged to do things I don’t enjoy, yet they can’t grasp if I can’t even motivate myself to do the things I like there’s no chance in hell im gonna do the things I don’t.
Half procrastinator, half duck
miss u
Awh trogluddite I quite agree! Doing something for another removes the ability to procrastinate or be unmotivated for me too. I know I can always help someone else, even if I feel I can't help myself. In hindsight, helping others is probably the exact type of help I needed to give myself then too!
i thought u were a duck ?
I am an awful procrastinator - I even procrastinate when it's something I want to do (like going to get a book so that I can read for a bit). I know that my life would be less stressful if I didn't procrastinate all the time, but I never seem to change! I completely relate to the "unstoppable force" concept.
U sound like my wife lol. Nope I’m happy with what I’m doing right now. It’s what I need to do. Going out is overrated haha
I've spent long stretches of my life like that, too, including the last few years. What you said about things you enjoy really strikes a chord - people tend to notice very quickly when our autistic traits prevent us from doing "chores", but it rarely occurs to them that our traits can prevent us from doing things we enjoy as well. I couldn't count the number of times I've looked out of the window and thought; "what a nice day to go for a walk round the park", and then realise only after it's gone dark that I haven't even got out of my chair all day.
so different nowadays i spent most of my teenage years outside only coming back every 2/3 days for food ----- u have to get out ---
I can relate, my day to day life is sat at my pc, gaming and that’s about it.
Well it’s not ideal lol, it affects my hygiene too. But according to dwp I’m fine haha
partially i put things off loads of times
that sounds pretty severe i put things off as well but if i have a list to tick off i at least do some of the things on the list. But sometimes I just hide the list :)
Yep, I on the average day do absolutely nothing. Can’t even motivate myself to eat. Even neglecting things I enjoys sometimes due to lack of motivation. It surely does suck.
An attribute of my AS is procrastination, which is to put things off for another time. I struggle at time to do the simplest of things, it feels like there's an unforeseen force stopping me.
Can anyone relate?
Yeah, that's often how it works, hope you battle through the bad bit soon!