Scared of my future/brexit.

  • Just to say i talked to my parents and it is all under control. I will get back to you guys when its all sorted..............
    Hello I lived here for about 30 odd years and i have been schooled here and never broken the law.
    I was born in south Africa in 1987 and moved to the uk, my mum and dad are Belgium and we moved from Africa due to my dads job. I myself never really worked and I claimed jobseekers and dla at around 2012. 
    I was to have a paper claiming if i wanted to keep my Belgium passport but I never had it and my passport was revoked. 
    Only started saving recently to become British as to stay in the country. I am getting my papers sorted and then i can get a British passport but im scared if they say i cant become british and then deport me as i never really worked here.
    Everyone tells me not to worry but i just dont feel safe. I understand why people voted for brexit but i dont want to move as i will live in poverty and wont be safe in Africa. I have nothing there.
    My mum and dad worked in the uk for most my life and they are applying for British passport and what not. 
    I am not very good at saving and I have asked if I could have a loan on but they were pretty rude.
    I feel so bad im not sure if I deserve this at all, am a bad person? Will i get kicked out?
    Could you give me any advice?
    I did try to contact NAS but it said it was blocked not sure why as i have not used that email in years
    Kind regards.
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  • I am not autistic I am a carer of a very severely autistic son, who does not have the benefit that you possess of being able to understand and comprehend a conversation.

    The reason I suggested Advocacy is that he may not be able understand or comprehend a complex conversation.

    Have you not understood all the helpful advice people have tried to assist you with.

    Maybe he hasn't.

    Others suspect its a wind up. That can mean that you are trying to wind up others with your tale of woe that may be completely from your imagination.

    Who exactly? That's an implication that may be completely from your imagination.

    Or they indicate somebody is trying to wind you up. and you cannot recognise it.

    Hold on. You just said......

    I am not autistic I am a carer of a very severely autistic son, who does not have the benefit that you possess of being able to understand and comprehend a conversation.

    So if he cannot recognise it, he has difficulties being able to understand and comprehend a conversation.

    I don't know about this behavior, It is certainly not autistic behavior. It is a form of Bullying of a vulnerable person by a sick person. Or a scam on a vulnerable person you. 

    What is not autistic behaviour? His behaviour? Why not?

    Do you think his carers are autistic? This statement doesn't make sense.

    I and others have given you information what to do and so far you have not really acted on it.  

    Maybe he is being controlled. Which you imply. Maybe he lacks the communication skills. Maybe he lacks agency, which is more concerning as he has carers, and he is being guided towards parting with money.

    I have given you the benefit of the doubt that you are being scammed, you have related a plausible story.

    Yes, you aren't the arbiter of truth here.

    You are old enough i guess between 25 and 45 to be definitely an adult.

    Yes, and as you yourself know adults between 25 and 45 can be autistic, and have communication difficulties. They can also have learning difficulties.

    Why don't you give your permission to the Lady you in who's house you live in Caerphilly for her to telephone 999 on your behalf.

    They were the ones suggesting that he use the solicitor. That wouldn't really be the best course of action.

    Have you borrowed money to give away to an unknown person.

    He said he hasn't borrowed money yet. He said the money was for the solicitor that the home put him in touch with.

    The story teller made a mistake. its a scam.

    Well if they are a scammer they wouldn't have made a mistake, stories are usually told to pull off a scam.

    I believe any money you have borrowed or paid out is lost, and you still want to drag it out as your previous reply to a topic. perhaps to get people to respond to you.

    Well that's a comforting statement. How do you know that he has paid, borrowed, or ultimately lost any money. If he has any concerns about being scammed, or how the process works, logically he will want people to respond to him. You assume a lot of things.

    Why don't you seek the help as before of your local politician Jeffrey Cuthbert, 

    This is good advice.

    Dial 999. It's now up to you you are an articulate adult.

    How do you know this?

    You make a lot of baseless assumptions. I'd say that it's best not to do this. We can't judge how this person functions.

    You went from giving solutions to full on unexplainable rage.

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