narcissistic relations bc we are too sweet

My gran was manipulative, I was manipulative, my brother was manipulative.

However, I have changed and accepted the past. I'm not cured, but I no longer act the victim. I was every bit as guilty.

My mother and brother are narcissistic. Predominantly they were angry, violenct, aggressive, and controlling people, but then there are more subtle things they would do as well, like manipulation, blaming, shaming, mind control, "joking" as a way to put you down, and gaslighting. Well everything was about control and dominance, while appearing on the surface as though everything was perfectly fine, it was just a façade to hide their ways. 

I have a high tolerance for bad treatment without being aware, because that was "normal" treatment for me. I mean living with them was very cult-like, I had no rights to speak or any kind of freedom of my own, no value as a human being, and I was there to serve them like a slave. I had trauma from them, I was blamed heavily for everything that was wrong, but I was not allowed to fault these "rulers" in any way, because if I did I'll get punished and treated like a criminal. I deteriorated while I was living with them. I didn't look in the mirror because I was shattered, physically and mentally. 

But I'm in a much better place now though, and I've learned have more confidence in myself, and to do the things I enjoy. 

My mother is a narcissist. I am estranged from her, and she tries to weasel her way into my life with sly manipulative ways sometimes, and she tries to control the family members that I do speak to. I've also dated quite a few narcissists. I am very empathetic so I want to help, but ironically the relationships have ended because of my autism (I am socially embarrassing, apparently).

Mother ,brother ,First partner, second partner.[ the familiar ugly]

I have the worst mother in law in the world,  she has hired private investigators to follow us and photograph our children ,The facts of her life are crazy from trying to get her daughter arrested on her wedding day ,to putting her children into care to manipulate other people.

They really hate not being in control or having to face the truth. 

I have a narcissistic sister and mother in law.   They spend their lives controlling and manipulating their victims.    Unfortunately, they are now both old enough to have no more victims left.    All their friends have gradually walked away.

Sister preys on her adult daughter and mother in law preys of her middle-aged son.    Both have Stockholm Syndrome.

Narcissist seek out vulnerable people and then separate them from their support base -  there's loads of youtube videos explaining how they work.     The trick is to spot the patterns and starve the monster.