narcissistic relations bc we are too sweet

I think we have to be careful with this. Allow me to put on my big, grown-up, politically-correct hat for a moment.

The word narcissist gets tossed around a lot in our selfie-obsessed, celebrity-driven culture. And, like Nazi, which has become a go-to word to describe people we don't like or who don't agree with us, narcissist has also become the go-to word used to describe people who have wronged us or have acted (or continue to act) in a selfish manner towards us.

Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a mental disorder and we should be careful about using it as an insult for people that we don't like or with whom we have had problems.

We use far too many terms for mental disorders as casual insults, and it causes a lot of stigma, pain and suffering for those of us with a mental illness.  It's okay to call someone's behaviour as selfish, arrogant or behaviour, but we should we be labelling them as narcissists unless we have medical evidence to back up our assertion? Probably not.

I'll take off my big, grown-up, politically-correct hat now. 

I am 100% sure about my sister and mother in law - I actually spent the afternoon around my sister's - the conversation ended up talking about our childhoods - both parents are dead so I was filling her in on our violent dad and my (undiagnosed) aspie mum - and with my wife there to corroborate the events, it was interesting to see her blinkers come off and her having to re-measure my life.    

She's also terrified of me making contact with her ex and all her lies coming out - which was the real reason she invited me over - to convince me that a bloke I knew for 25 years was a terrible person.  

Unfortunately for her, we already know the truth.

I am 100% sure about my sister and mother in law - I actually spent the afternoon around my sister's - the conversation ended up talking about our childhoods - both parents are dead so I was filling her in on our violent dad and my (undiagnosed) aspie mum - and with my wife there to corroborate the events, it was interesting to see her blinkers come off and her having to re-measure my life.    

She's also terrified of me making contact with her ex and all her lies coming out - which was the real reason she invited me over - to convince me that a bloke I knew for 25 years was a terrible person.  

Unfortunately for her, we already know the truth.