I do, I miss being able to go to a physical shop and look and try stuff on, some times I want a good old mindless wander around shops, a bit of retail therapy. The internets just not hte same, you don't get to feel or see the size or quality of what you're buying and so much of it is rubbish and not as described.
Your friend might find this article interesting:
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ambush salesperson.
So true and accurate
I used to hate being accosted by shop assistants too, there was one where I told her that her coming up and bugging me all the time had actually put me off going in there and buying anything and I would only go in there now if I didn't see her hanging about outside the door like a an ambush salesperson. There has only ever been one clothes shop that used to try and do that, it was one that I didn't like anyway so the predatory ambush sales tactics never really got to me, either that or all shops did it and took one look at me and decided that none of their clothes would fit me anyway and left me alone. There was one really old fashioned dress shop in Lampeter where they had almost no clothes on show and you just went in and said you wanted a summer dress or something and the assistants would get a selection to show you. I remember going shopping with my Mum when I was a very little girl and this being how clothes shops were. I've been herded out of a few shops too, I don't know if the assistants were just embarassed to have someone like me in their shop or if they thought I was going to steal something, it was very uncomfortable though.
Yes, or in my case customer assistants attacking me at the entrance and trying to offer me something. I know it’s their job, but I like to take my time to see something and sometimes I tell them, thank you I don’t need help now if I have questions I will ask. I don’t want to sound rude but it’s really annoying for me but I know some people like it. Usually if I know that I’m this particular shop the customer service is so “invasive” I don’t go there anymore.
this shop isn’t for people like you”
I actually get that feeling in many shops, the saying just comes into my head and I leave of my own free will. The trigger is either the piped music, the other customers or just the general atmosphere.
I enjoy both physical(Real) shops and Internet shopping. It depends on the shop and my mental state of mind.
If I find a shop uncomfortable, I leave very quickly.
For shoes it has to be a real shop because virtual/Internet shopping doesn't make sense. I have to try on the shoes to make sure they fit and are comfortable. Very often I fancy shoes but when I try them on, they just don't fit and I go off them. My feet are very wide and high. Most shoes are just painful.
I get that too!
I tend to avoid shops now, as I’ve noticed that generally store assistants don’t uphold best practices, integrity or kindness in their roles anymore. It’s different compared to stores I know in the US, particularly ones I know where all 3 are drilled in from the start, stores like Boot Barn, Cavenders and brand boutique stores like Tecovas, Lucesse etc, western stores, all get results in their practice, which is always memorable, which has instilled a sense that whenever I visit, I’m guaranteed a great and supportive experience! My top faves are the Tecovas store in Nashville and Boot Barn on I Drive in Orlando, both which have store assistants who are particular allies of the autistic community, which I’ve found particularly rare, especially in the UK!
i miss having game and gamestation.
i always remember going to one then the other... i didnt even wanna buy anything i just liked looking at the different games. sometimes buy something if i saw a random game that looked cool i didnt know of. it was more exciting than the souless online buying. you had excitement, you had joy, you then buy a thing and are excited to get home and play it. online cannot match that feeling. online is souless and dead without feeling.
I only ever used online shopping during Covid lockdowns to buy my iPad and my iPhone because normally, living alone, getting things delivered to my flat in the post or by other delivery services is a real pain as the infrastructure is not there - I prefer to do food and clothes shopping in person where possible - these days, paying bills has to be done online in many places - I’ve been trying to change my broadband provider and my mobile phone service but because this involves a foreign call centre outside of the EU, this is very difficult
Real shops are important in my opinion. Dealing with returns through internet retail can be a pain. There's a lot to be said for buying food fresh and picking it yourself. I think regularly going food shopping makes living in a community, whether it's a city, town or village, more interesting as you're getting outside and interacting with people, even if only briefly. Seeing what is on offer brings novelty and some excitement. You don't know who you will bump into which can also be fun. I wouldn't like to get all my food delivered like some people do because that's usually a once a week deal and that means the better foods will perish before the end of the week. If I'm buying clothes I also like real shops because like you I'd prefer to try something on as sizes aren't always reliable indicators and it's easier to tell if I want something after looking in a mirror. It's also nice to keep high streets as alive as possible as if they go, then places become more empty to live in.
I hate shops and I do shopping only if I need something and it has nothing to do with any fun or pleasure. At the front door you can hear constant “peep-peep” from the scanners, the shopping trolleys being pushed, people talking, laughing, radio playing, often some stupid ads, children crying the worst thing is tantrum if parents don’t buy something (I’m not saying they should buy it just because the kid is throwing tantrum) but it’s generally a hell. Plus smells plus led lights that make me either squint constantly or wear sunglasses indoors and then I get stupid stares and comments. It’s also annoying that I often can’t find the things I want. It’s so full of everything, I feel like the full shelves all at once fall on me. I like to go only shops that I got used to, so I can do the shopping quickly. Enter the shop, pick the item (try on if clothes/shoes) quality price acceptable? Direction cashier, direction exit till the next time I need something. I laugh that if all the customers were like me, the big companies would go bankrupt. So I definitely don’t miss shopping but if I have the choice to buy in a shop or online- I prefer shop. I can see the stock and I don’t have to wait for the delivery plus get angry if it’s lost, delayed or delivered to wrong address.
I have always hated shops. I can never find anything and feel very self conscious. Clothes shops are the worst. I always expect someone to stop me and say “this shop isn’t for people like you”
I only miss seeing and feeling the schmutter not the actual shops, I wouldn’t try clothing on in a shop. I ordered denim jeans recently and they were a good fit and quality. I then ordered another 6 identical pairs. I do the same with most clothing and shoes. My wife has ordered clothes from some of the Chinese sites and it can be a bit hit and miss.
