Published on 12, July, 2020
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-59352983
Melanie Sykes has just been diagnosed as being autistic
She like many here remained undiagnosed until later in life.
very positive article
Are you basing this on her job?
Based on stereotypes of autism, I shouldn't be able to do my job either, as my job requires a lot of empathy and people skills. Something Melanie said on Loose Women really resonated with me actually, when she said people are her interest. I've said this many times that people are a fixation for me, especially meeting people (I get bored once I know them well).
If you question her diagnosis then you are questioning a lot of us. My difficulties are often very internalised, nobody ever sees my struggles until I'm approaching meltdown or shutdown. Even that is usually private at home.
Referring to people as high or low functioning is pretty outdated too these days. Even "high functioning" autistic people have support needs. Just because you cannot relate them to your non-verbal child doesn't mean that they don't exist.
She does! That appearance on the talk show was good. it was an Irish chat show, it's on youtube somewhere.
she has 2 programmes on Netflix
There's a great comedian called Hannah Gadsby. She is diagnosed autistic. Maybe check her out. One of her interviews on a talk show I seem to remember she discusses how she is fine with being on stage because she is in control. This is also true to a certain extent of myself as a tutor. I know my role. Conversations are on my terms and usually functional.
I feel compelled to reply and attempt to explain why your comments are causing so much upset - I read this thread last night and was also upset by it and the assumptions being made. This is not an attack - this is me attempting to address points you have raised.
Sorry I've run out of steam.
There is also:
The Ritvo Autism Asperger Diagnostic Scale-Revised (RAADS-R): A Scale to Assist the Diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorder in Adults: An Internation Validation Study
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3134766/
And:
Thanks again. Very much appreciated :-)
But it raises my original point; how robust is the diagnostic process?
Diagnostic tools ~ a guide for all audiences
https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/diagnosis/diagnostic-tools/all-audiences
Preliminary tests for assessment referrals
https://www.autismresearchcentre.com/tests/
"For your information as well, an outcome of an autism assessment can be to have autistic traits but to not meet the full criteria sufficiently. My friend's son had this result from their assessment."
That's the sort of information I am hoping people will share. I find this helpful and again thank you for sharing useful information.
Why do I need to have experience of adult assesment process to ask a question of how in works? I also dont have COVID but I find it useful to know the assessment process of how it is diagnosed. For two reasons, one out of general interest because of how prevalent it is and two, how I would go about getting such an assessment if I was worried I had this condition.
There you go again 'extremely unpleasan to speak to". You seem to base this purely on the fact you are offended by me daring to share my genuine doubts over the diagnostic process. I could see your point if I had stated everyting as fact but I put it as a question, I welcomed dialogue and most importantly was open to learn from others. Troll by denfinition means to deliberately antogonise people. It is your opinion that is my intention. It is not, so calling me a troll is an insult because I am not trying to upset people. If I was, you would know all about it! I have deliberately tried to remain measured, appreciative to comments, even when others sresort to name calling etc.
In terms of my sons diagnosis, yeah ofcourse, I would not like it if someone casting doubt over his diagnosis. I have already experienced this. And I'll tell you something else for free, before I realised my son had issues, I thought his behaviour was something to do with us as parents. I felt a complete failure. In some ways it was a relief to realise he had a condition that needed extra support. It's been a steep learing process for all of us, and there will always be more to learn. It is for that exact reason I am asking questions about the diagnostic process for adults. MS was the trigger on here for me to respond. I dont get her diagnosis. Its not the same as my son, because he is very very obvious. So, its all about learning by asking probing questions. If you dont understand, do not you ask people? You could argue as someone else did that its not the right place. Ok, maybe. But why am I asking, and what am I looking for? I can honestly say, it is not to antagonise you or anyone else. I dont understand why someone like MS (with seemingly exceptional social/communication skills) is able to get a diagnosis. It raises all sorts of questions in my mind. Some people have been helpful on here by pointing towards resources on "masking". You have just confirmed that "autistic traits" is also an actual thing. And there are other useful replies that have helped me learn more. But at no point have I criticised anyone, called anyone mean names etc. There is no need for that. You do not know me. Anyway, I will leave it at that. Once again, sorry to upset you or anyone else. I wish you all the best , and I mean that genuinely, even if you dont believe me ;-)
I have not stated anything as fact. I have openly said I am here to learn. I have openly said I come from a biased and limited perspective. I do appreciate that is is a sensative subject and I can see how some people may think I am trying to provoke a reaction. I really honestly do not want to upset anyone!!! Maybe you are right that it is not the best place to have this conversation. Point taken. But I have already learned a great deal from taking on some of the information people have shared with me here. I am happy to admit if I have incorrectly assumed something and get something wrong. I do not know the answers. But they only way to help with that is to share your own knowledge with me. Counter any assumptions you think I have made. But you have not done that, you have just came on and said you find my questioning offensive and should take them elsewhere. I was suggest essentiall telling me to shut up and bugger of is more offensive than me sharing my doubts over the diagnostic process, especially when I have not stated anything as fact. If you read carefully, I am actually in some ways looking for reassurance that the diagnostic process is actually more robust than I fear it is. I am open to listening to what you or anyone has to say. I am genuinely looking for answers, not to offend and not to argue. Please believe me :-)
Why do you say I have been impolite or direspectful? Are you just basing this on me casting doubt over the diagnostic process, or is it because I have said I do not understand MS diagnosis? Either way, I asked if anyone could help me understand the process better. I certainly will be speaking to professionals but I felt it was very important to get an idea of peoples lived experience. I was aware that it may be on the knuckle as you say, and I am sorry to upset anyone but I need ask this question. I think it is useful for the autistic community to have these conversations. If you shut down every question that offends people, noone will learning anything from each other. I value what experience and knowledge you may wish to genuinely share with me. If you just come on and say I dont like what you asked, take your question elsewhere, its not healthy for anyone. Clearly it is sensative subject but it is not in anyway meant to be personal to anyone. Not everyone has repsonded to me in the same way. Some people have been very helpful. But I appreciate it is a sensative subject. Sorry again if I have upset you :-)
ConsciousBadger suggested you debate the elements of the diagnostic criteria with the people who do the assessments, not the people being diagnosed.
You also said yourself that you haven't been diagnosed, therefore whether you self identify or not (which you also said you dont), you haven't experienced adult assessment.
For your information as well, an outcome of an autism assessment can be to have autistic traits but to not meet the full criteria sufficiently. My friend's son had this result from their assessment.
I just find you extremely unpleasant to speak to. I do not use "troll" as an insult but as an observation of your contribution to this forum. To say you don't understand something therefore you doubt the validity of something that is so personal to people is rude and insensitive. No doubt you wouldn't respect the same approach to your son's diagnosis.
Your individual diagnosis is not up for debate, I completely agree! The diagnostic process is already and has been for some time a matter of debate. Whether you like it or not, it is not a debate that will go away. Stop taking things personally. Do you mind if I ask a personal question, do you have a daignosis?
How do you know I am not a doctor? How do you know I am not autistic?
I did not question your diagnosis. Please point to where exactly I questioned your personal diagnosis? How am I debating with the people who diagnose others? Noone has responded to me and said , yeah I daignose people and I have in turn slated them. I have given rise to questions over the diagnostic process. I have not questioned yours or anyone on heres individual diagnosis. I have said I do not understand MS diagnosis. I have not said MS is not autistic. I have asked how it is possible based on what I know. I have asked people to share their understanding and have thanked everyone who has provided information to help me. When you dont like the line of questioning, your response is to shut it down or resort to insults such calling me a "troll".
Wait until you find out there are autistic doctors too. You are going to combust with the confusion.
Our diagnosis isn't really up for debate though. Debate is a two way process and I certainly don't want to be drawn into a debate about whether I am or aren't actually autistic. For many people on this forum, it took 2+ years to wait for their assessment and diagnosis.
To claim to be offended because someone has suggested to debate with the people who diagnose others is outright ridiculous. No wonder I think you are a troll. You are behaving like one!
No problem :) I am a complete mess now emotionally and the mind fog i awaklad fget iws now comign down so i ned to step awya.
Thank you for being supportive and putting this more eloquently than I was able to.
It really isn't the place to be questioning the validity of the diagnosis we have received, certainly not by someone who has never been through that experience themselves or has any awareness of adult assessment.
I am certainly not saying get off this forum. Please re-read what I have said.
Nor am I questioning your motives. I am suggesting that based on your stated motives you will surely learn more from speaking to experts in the profession. You might learn something from speaking to some people who live and suffer with ASD but surely you can see that the line of your questioning is a bit on the knuckle and - as clearly shown on this thread - liable to insult and offend unless done very carefully. The proof is in the pudding on this one because you have upset people.
I disagree that you have been polite and respectful on this thread.
How exactly have I insulted you?
Very helpful. Many thanks :-)
May I ask out of interest why it would cross your mind (ie "how can you tell")? Just curious.
I also think that diagnostic criteria are evolving butI know there has to be some sort of "cut off". I scored just above the cut off on my assessment. With some people, it may seem that they have more obvious difficulties but many years ago they might not have even got a diagnosis. So I think things are evolving all the time.
I do think as more people explore information which is available and so start talking about their own experiences, this goes to redefining what autism means. For example, when I started reading about autism and aspergers for myself I discounted it in the first instance because I couldn't relate to it. It was about stereotypical male behaviour and from official sources like the nhs. But then as I started reading more (a mixture of first hand experiences and also that of qualified people) it began to make more sense. As I talk about my own experiences this may feed into how other people relate to it too.
Edit - I think I'm trying to say there may be common shared experiences of people with autism which are not in "official" material but it's only since we have more access to sharing information that these are brought to the open more.
On the other hand, I do wonder sometimes if what people describe can be attributed to autism or if it's something else like personality. And then these things get thrown into the unofficial mix of autism. I would say there's plenty I cannot relate to but a lot i can.
I have thought about this before going off on so many branches in my head. I don't know if I have explained correctly what I mean and its certainly not a personal attack on anyone autistic or not.
Brill, that's the one! I like how she says we have got to learn each others' language. Her hair looked like a freshly windswept cat!