Am I wrong in feeling offended that a task I've been performing for over a year has now been assigned to someone else, with someone other than myself supervising them?
Said supervisor hasn't consulted me and has disregarded my documentation / process.
Feels like a massive FU to me.
My work colleague tells me not to take it personally.
I'm growing tired of people spouting things like...
"Don't take it personally", "You're not the only one this affects", "I don't understand your problem", etc.
Management at work do my head in.
If you want to feel offended, go ahead, there's no right or wrong to it.
I, personally, would instead ask, does it benefit me to be offended?
It is common for autistic people to take offence at things like this because we live in our own little worlds so we think the world evolves around us, therefore anything that happens around us, we think it is all about us and we therefore take it personally and feel offended. NT people are generally not as self obsessed as we are and therefore they are able to not take it personally and not be offended and they're able to see clearly that, even if they don't like the changes, they can see that they have absolutely nothing at all to do with them but in fact, something much bigger than them, like they have pointed out, you are not the only one that the changes effect.
So go ahead, if you want to take it personally, like you're the centre of the universe, by all means kick and scream like a two year old, who also thinks they're the centre of the universe and if it works for you, there's no right or wrong and no judgment. You don't need anybody's permission to be p****d off. And I'm sure you equally do the heads in of the management at your work, it's just how it goes, life is but a mirror. But yeah, get that anger out one way or another and if blaming someone else works for you and makes you happy, go for it. The others who you blame won't care, because they know it's not actually true and they'll just think you're acting like a two year old or something, unless they know you're autistic and then they can be much more open with you, maybe?
Anyway, no. it's not wrong to feel offended, that's your feeling, your choice and you can feel what you want.
I assume you feel like you've been downgraded? What are you doing instead of this task? Is there more scope to pick up something else that's more interesting?
A bit harsh.
Your use of language and your implication that I'm having a tantrum like a 2 years offends me.
You don't know me, so I'll thank you not to generalise.
Nah. I'm still doing everything else but it seems very odd that I haven't been consulted even though I took ownership of the process, designed reports and devised the testing process that everyone said they were happy with.
Now said task has been assigned to someone with no experience and I haven't even been spoken to about said process / testing so it seems like all my work has just been binned.
To me it sounds like poor communication and management on their part rather than any reflection on you. If tasks are reassigned then it makes sense for the smooth running of the organisation not to mention staff morale to keep all parties informed. I appreciate it's difficult not to take it personally, but I would probably bring it up at the next reasonable opportunity (any 1:1s or other review, perhaps) just to check whether there were any reasons you should be aware of. Also, just to confirm it wasn't personal, I'd notice how this person behaves with other employees. Perhaps they're like this all the time?
I understand what you mean. I've worked on projects before that just get shelved. It feels personal because you've put so much effort into them. Could you approach the new person and offer help? Or maybe speak with your manager to ask the reason why it was transferred? (Both of those are difficult, I would struggle to do that). Could it be they are freeing you up to start a new task?
I'm not generalizing, show me an autistic person who doesn't live in their own bubble! And that's me added to the list of people who offend you then :)
Is there anyone in the management that you can mention this to? Does your company have an HR dept? Does your manager ever bother talking to you or are you just seen as droid #463?
You only have 2 choices - say something or keep it to yourself - how annoyed are you?
He'll end up getting the sack if he brought something up like that! He already said they were happy with his work, what does he want, to be crowned the king of the company or something, like he's the only one effected by the changes. Don't encourage him to make himself look like an idiot. And he's not at nursery, he's in an adult role, managers, unlike teachers, don't have to tell the kids, I mean employees everything, although if they are aware of his autism, they could have a word with him so as to make him realise it's not all about him. It's not a conspiracy, he doesn't have to start becoming a blinking detective on top of doing his job and feeling p****d off. It's classic autistic brain functioning, that's why the nt people aren't taking it personally, because it's not personal. He just needs to channel his feelings and if taking offence helps, then so be it. We all have different ways of coping. I often get over things by taking offence or at least I used to, until I found other ways, but I still will sometimes because it's just easier that way, for me, sometimes. I don't see what's wrong in just feeling offended?
You're implying that I'm self obsessed and selfish, which are traits I despise in others - these are reasons I no longer socialize.
You're therefore implying that I suffer with cognitive dissonance.
Neither of which I appreciate.