I'm struggling, in truth i have been struggling for a very long time, I think most of us do. My GP has me on anti depressants and anti anxiety tablets they don't do much for me at all.
Is there anything that does help? I think that my depression is not depression but part of my autistic spectrum thing. Assuming that it is asd not depression is there anything that can make it any better? I am not sure that I can cope for much longer.
My GP prescribed antidepressants before we discovered that I am likely autistic.
I was using them for a long time.
I did not notice much difference. Maybe there was a small difference.
It was not worth it.
I am unhappy because I experience many problems.
I am also not sure that I can cope for much longer.
Hi Song (and California)I bought this book via the internet: http://www.tonyattwood.com.au/books-by-tony-m/english-books/1407-exploring-depression-and-beating-the-blues. A CBT Self-Help Guide to Understanding and Coping with Depression in Asperger’s Syndrome [ASD-Level 1]
I found it good and it made a lot of sense to me. It is about the typical pitfalls that are likely to make someone with ASD1 prone to depression and how you can deal with it. Also I find that depression for me is linked to a grieving process of realising your life is not what you had hoped for yourself. It also just can take so much time to start getting better - but for me things are starting to get better I think.
You write: "I'm not sure I can cope much longer". This is important that you do tell people the way you feel. Do you have a therapist?I think the MODs of this forum might have the right contact details for help when you feel very bad - maybe you can then print them and keep them close to hand?
I hope the MODs don't mind I copy pasted the info here about what to do should you feel beyond coping:
If it’s outside your GP hours call 111 to reach the NHS 111 service: http://www.nhs.uk/NHSEngland/AboutNHSservices/Emergencyandurgentcareservices/Pages/NHS-111.aspx
The Samaritans also provide confidential non-judgemental emotional support, 24 hours a day on 116 123, or by email on email@example.com.
MIND have information pages on coping with self harm or suicidal feelings based on the experiences of people who’ve been through it that you may find helpful.
If you are very close to doing something to hurt yourself - call 999 now or go to your nearest A&E department. There should be someone there to support you and make sure you get ongoing support.
Thinking of you both!!!
If ones life is great and beautiful and for some reason someone is depressed, then the tablets maybe help.
But how can the tablets help if one is unhappy because of the problems the person experience everywhere and all the time? How can the tablets solve the problems that cause one to be unhappy?
If certain things would change in my life and would be the way I want them to be, I would be extremely happy.
For me: gaining insight into how ASD affects me was important (and accepting it... I often still feel ASD is no excuse for my messed up life). And also therapy over a long period of time. Admitting to people, letting my guard down, being myself more. Learning to respect my boundaries. Resting and sleeping a lot.But most importantly I think starting to accept that my life will probably never be what I had hoped for myself - but trying to identify the small things that do make me happy. I think it is a very slow process starting to get better - and it is good to have help. I guess the first step is acknowledging there is a problem and outing it? Not sure myself.
Yep, I can totally identify with that. I was told they work anyway, guess what the doctor meant was that people (well, some at least although he tried to convince me that it applies to everybody) that take antidepressants just care less about the things pulling them down. But even if the pills did that it would all go bad again the moment you stop taking them.
May I ask what the things are that would make you happy? I'm not going to come up with some brilliant tips, just being interested.
I would like to work from home. Get work-life balance. Space where I could work alone. I am now in an open plan office.
I do not like open plan offices and to see people moving around and making noises.
That is so rough; do they know at work that you are on the spectrum? Can they make adjustments?
I've actually never heard anyone say that they are great, some people just don't mind. Not sure why they haven't turned away from open plan offices again after trying it for a while.
A friend (who has no diagnosis but does have lots of characteristics that would fit ASD quite well) got one of those folding walls (Spanish walls?) around her desk. Doesn't help with the noise but at least with the distraction from seeing people walk past all the time. She was seen as fussy asking for it, but they installed one anyway.
Yes, they know at work that I am on the spectrum.
They could make adjustments, but they do not want.
So, I have to fight.
I hate fightings and conflicts. I like peace.
It is grossly unfair; surely you would hope that there would be laws to protect us :( like oktanol says, very few NT's even like open plan. But it is really awful for people prone to sensory overload. :( And like you say, you don't have spare energy for the confrontation. :( I like the idea of the Spanish walls... and 3M earmuffs?