• Help with Access to Work

    Apologies in advance if this is a long read, and thanks if you read till the end.

    I started a new job 7 months ago, and applied for Access to Work by the instruction of my employers because I disclosed to them that I was autistic. I thought it was important…

  • RE: Noise and Sound Problems

    Part of why I'm posting this is for parents to recognise that we don't ever dull our senses. Our Sense Perception exists to help humans calculate what is Dangerous. For most non-autistics, there is an ability to dull ones sense-perception for the…

  • RE: Deteriorating mental health and housing

    Staying at families houses is out of the question, I've been dragged up through foster care, where most of my stimming was beaten out of me because they found it embarrasing. I have one remaining friend who is too ill to put me up, the rest of my friends…

  • RE: Tired at the end of the day?

    I think the anxiety is so bad I can't relax enough for it to take effect.

    It is a chicken and egg situation here but I know it is hard to break the hold of the anxiety.

    I found it took starting in a quiet, safe place, having done a long workout and…

  • RE: Advice to help my autistic son with swimming

    Here are a few things I found when learning to swim that might also be affecting your son;

    The main thing that made me quit swimming lessons (though I would still swim in an informal environment and became a fairly adept self-taught swimmer) was that I…

  • RE: NFH

    Hmm, not sure if flats just for people with ASD would really help - it's not exactly like everybody is the same then... They would probably annoy each other just as much. Someone gets up at 5 am every day but goes to bed at 10 in the evening, someone…

  • RE: Deconstructing Autism. 1: Sound Sensitivity.

    When I walk in the busy street, I hear a big car coming behind. I turn around. No, it’s not a van, it’s just normal car. Then I hear awful squeak of tram taking turn on the rails. When it passes I catch someone doing dishes in their kitchen…

  • RE: Pop quiz! Do you like going out shopping?

    A trip to physical shops can overwhelm me so much that I don't often go nowadays, maybe a couple of times a month if that.

    Online shopping meets most shopping needs in a much more convenient and less stressful manner. As far as non food shopping is concerned…

  • RE: How can I help my daughter in a shutdown?

    I  feel that with the younger loud sibling issue. My daughter 5 likely ASD but undiagnosed at present causes a lot of the stress in the mornings due to being too loud & bouncy! My 13yr old will get up before her to avoid the noise & the busyness. I also…

  • RE: Autism + ADHD combined female presentation- What's your lived experience?

    I’m combined but only recently diagnosed ASD in my 40s and waiting for ADHD assessment (psychiatrist was confident I have both).

    For me it feels like a superpower one minute and head torture the next. On a good day I can get a week’s worth of work…