Published on 12, July, 2020
I came up with sth to help them imagine it:
Try to imagine being dropped from helicopter into a sea during storm, blindfolded, without knowing the height. Then you hit the water, and while being shocked from not fully anticipated contact, your first thought is ‘’I can’t swim’’. Nonetheless, you start fighting for your life, throwing your arms around without skill, yet staying on top somehow. Then, you think, you can hear a familiar voice shouting ‘’Swim, you have to’’.
Hit the water is the moment when you turn 18, and realise the enormity of the task ahead.
Blindfold represents inability to read people correctly.
‘’Swim, you have to’’ is ‘’Act normal’’, something I was told as a child more often than anything else.
I read a sci-fi book as a kid, Beggars in Spain, whre Sleepless (like atypical now) were not tolerated and created own enclave and what happened after, try it
en.wikipedia.org/.../Beggars_in_Spain
Why can't we (atypical) all work together instead of working with people who don't appreciate us?
If great people like this community surrounded us, life would be much simpler, and we all get on with our me times after work, without stress and sleepless nights. Over analyzing, how to get through next day. Sometimes, I don't feel like getting up because I'm too drained to put a face for normal world.
I wonder how Einstien managed his bills
I can't swim as well, that is why I thought of it as horrifying to do it during storm on open sea, and apparently many NTs as well
I've accepted my condition recently. Although my neighbours (elderly) and relatives "nudged" me a year ago, I had difficulty getting it.
I lost two jobs since Jan this year(never happened before), and the situation is demanding my attention. I'm sure I've Asperger's. Surprisingly until 33, I assumed it to be confidence or anxiety issues. Those were symptoms, not root causes
Your analogy makes so much sense. All these years,s I was told to act normal,l and I followed the rules religiously. It worked, but I lost myself in that process. So, I'm starting again like I would have started from 18 (in your analogy). I envy people who learned earlier in life and would be well equipped to get the basics going.
I don't want to swim. Instead, I'll stay myself, which will lead me to a better place than where I was. I'm sure I'll be happier being myself than becoming some who I'm not, either I'm not looking to be.
I try to amuse them. but most of my jokes receives Furious Blinking Response :P
Yes. If I ask a straight question, I want a straight answer. If someone asks me a straight question, I give them a straight answer.
NTs don't like this. I don't know what else they are looking for. Some kind of ulterior motive? Which I don't have.
And that 'be yourself' thing. You're only allowed to be yourself if you're an extrovert, loud, fun, popular.
If you're a quiet, studious introvert who doesn't amuse other people, you're not allowed to be yourself.
And that is the end of my rant for the day!
so true. It puzzles me too, that is why questioning
Definitely! My life has got better in the pandemic tbh because people have more in common with me now.
No they were just joking independently but thanks for that link!
Do NTs ever give an authentic response? They never give a straight answer a straight question. It annoys me that it's fashionable for people to say 'be authentic' 'be yourself', yet NTs never are. They are always trying to be someone else.
Whereas autistic people are authentic, we say what we think and show our emotions, yet somehow that's not the type of authentic that society likes or wants!
I would ask them anyway. I ask them a lot of uncomfortable questions :)
The FUNNY thing here is that most psychoanalytical research and psychology is created for NT society. So, once I dove deep into philosophy and psychoanalysis, I had a read out for NTs and how they can easily become sociopathic or psychotic. But yes, I'd rather ask them direct, it's just you won't get an authentic response.
Was it Neurotypicality Research Inc? https://twitter.com/SNeurotypicals
So good.
This is excellent.
I saw someone online asking that! They were going to study what makes people NT. They were joking but why not?
omg, it has never occurred to me that bouncing back the question might be a better solution. you're genius
What I want to do now is asking random people how it is to be NT? Or simplified version: how it is like to be you?
that is a good thing about covid they stopped thinking that someone staying at home is weird
Well, it feels like we're living in one now days doesn't it!
I actually prefer it in some ways. I'm not the only one working alone at home. I'm not the only one anxious and frightened.
Before, I was unusual in working from home. Everyone else thought I was lucky working from home, they didn't realise how lonely it is. They were living a good life, and I was frightened and lonely. Now more people are like me.
The other day I read that life isn't supposed to make sense, it's random. That's why we need fiction that makes sense e.g. books, movies.