what is my autistic right

No one should ever punish an Autistic child for having a meltdown! When my youngest daughter, 2, has a meltdown I bear hug her, this usually calms her down relatively quickly!

should therapist ever suggest parent to punnish their autistic children like harsh supernanny technique because they are having a violent meltdown as they are very depressed?

do you agree that a therapist need to take in and force an autistic client not to be too different e.g playing with someone very younger than them (like children), always go to one places for every summer, bringing toys in the public as adult ,always loves only one interest or refusing to grow up?

does anyone in this forum had experience a therapist who were very forceful e.g not allow you to do things just because of your age so other people could laugh at you?

Yes they are autistic. Not behaviour thats stimming etc but for example these are a few things he's been told off for this week. Putting metal in toasters and electrical items. Ive told him twice now he dangers so losing computer time may make him think before he kills himself.  Leaving food half eaten on the sofa as the dog then gets it and theres a huge mess and I had an ill dog. Going online without asking as he's restricted as he is still a child.  I'd not say that was all naughty but its the only way I can teach him not to do things as he will be living on his own one day! He is fully capable but sometimes he just doesnt do it, he's a teen so it's partly that I guess. 

Hi Adrian, Sad to hear this is happening to you and it’s not right. You should be able to be yourself and not forced to act as your peers. I have felt the same, I have hfa and I have to act like my peers and get no special allowances even though I am different.

how would you consider as misbehave? would you ever call him misbehave because he display weird behaviour? weird behaviour are normal in autistic child. is their coping mechanism.

is your child autistic?

Discipline changes depending on the parent and child. Personally my child loses computer time of he misbehaves. Hes generally well behaved as he hates to miss this time

hi guys, just want to know how your parent discipline you even though you have autism? can you share some for me please?

include do they respect your strange behaviour, your special interest (eventhough is something your peers don't like or very limited), the way how you socialise, do something that you want/like? 

hi,

You see I'm an 18 years old teenager. (but an adult sometime as i can legally vote) so i had just finnished my secondary school and moving on to college. my dad think it's better for me not to go to university so instead go to a post secondary school (which is like secondary school except you get to choose what you want to do.) so i was so excited that i don't have to go to university and be a complete adult. you see i also have delay development. I didn't speak until I was 5 years old so when i was 10, my intelligent will be like a 5 years old. so i am about 4 years delay from my peers.

so part of my autism, i have problem with organisation and sometimes i still need my parent to help and guide me like some other autistic adult who are still 19. 

but one day at the reception for my further education for filling in forms, a man had gave out to my dad and criticise him for still helping me as an over 18 years old and he said to my dad that why am i still get help from my parent, I'm an adult. he should be doing this all by himself. he should no longer to have parent guide and help him.

so after my mum began so worried that she and my dad are no longer allow to help me so she said many hard word that really upsetting me for not doing good enough and that day, my family got into argument and then it was ruined because of that reception man, he nearly gave out to my dad.

but IT'S MY RIGHT

- come on there, i am autistic

- my parent already told them i am autistic

- if autistic adult are incompetent, they should have right to be helped by their parent.

- like if you go to ready the age and everyday law website http://oxme.info/cms/life/your-rights-different-ages, they even said 

"At 19, You are no longer classed as a child which means you have to use adult services unless you have learning difficulties or disabilities."

- so i think i shouldn't be a fully an adult yet. i am autistic, i should be still treated like other teenager for abit.

you see part of my autism, i get very hurt if someone judge me by my age. I could nearly get angry and get into a meltdown, I could not sleep properly, my heart beat so fast and I couldn't stop banging my head. you see i am very sicken tired of the age differences gap.

you see in the past when i was young, alot of adult (especially my old mean speech therapist) used to try to reduce me from loving disney characters as a way to avoid being bullied (as you see in ireland, disney characters are consider for younger children. only family love disney with their children. not like in japan or america where disney characters are for all ages especially for autistic adult as well). i've been having lots of trauma of the bullying history as a child. when i was a child, not only my speech therapist did it, some of my uncle, my primary school teacher and some other kids who bullied and criticising me for doing that. but i also feeled abit unfair (reminder please don't say "that's life"), in ireland, lots of younger children carry disney doll in the public but my therapist used to criticise me for doing that because of my grown up age but these younger children get respected like royal noble for loving disney while me, i get criticised from it because of my age. so these trauma are still in my mind.so that's why when ever i hear about age difference gap, i get very angry.

What you're going through is very common.  The world around you is known, safe and predictable - it's very comfortable to be there.    Unfortunately, the world is moving on around you and people grow up and change so a gap will open up between you and your peers if you stay where you are.

People will always point at the people who are different - it's like watching puppies growing up - they always pick on the weakest, easiest target.

You also have to acknowledge that you are not the same person you were when you were 2 - or 5 - or 10 - so no matter how much you want to stay where it's safe, you are changing and growing up too.

The sensible way to look at it is to take control of your own destiny - make the changes that are beneficial to you - become an adult where you need to and remain young where it only matters to you.

I'm an oldie and I still love playing with my models, my Lego and I love my Disney parks - but on the outside, I appear to be a reasonably 'normal' guy. 

There's also a lot to be said for growing up - the main one is freedom to do what you like.

Even Peter Pan changed a lot through the story once new things arrived on the scene.

As Kitsun said, we need more information really to be able to help. Everyone on here is quite helpful 

No your taking it the wrong way. Also Autistic so I'm not saying that at all. I have so many regrets I play over and over in my head. I think you mentioned that people are trying to get you to do things that you dont feel comfortable doing. What I'm trying to say is if you dont feel comfortable, dont do it. If you do something you dont want to (if like me) you will regret it. Its hard to fully understand your dilema as its not specific. I'm just trying to help 

Hi there! Sorry to hear that it seems like you are having a difficult time! Please can I ask you to be more specific. What are other adults criticising you for? What are they trying to force you to do to try to act like people at your age? What delayed development do you have? I am a 38 year old woman and I am also autistic (Aspergers), I have 3 daughters, I am sure that my eldest (21) also has Aspergers and my youngest (2) is due to have the last of her 4 autism assessments next Wednesday, I suspect she will get a level 3 ASD/Autism diagnosis, she also has global developmental delay. 

"if you do something you regret you have to live with that regret for the rest of your life. I'm the queen of regrets ", what do you mean by this quote? are you telling me that this is life, i just have to live with it whether i like it or not? i'm autistic and i have the right to be in my world?

Firstly your being a bit vague. But whatever your talking about, if you feel something's not right 'DONT DO IT' true friends wont make you do something you dont want to do. Fake friends......you dont need (trust me I'm almost 40 and lived through many mistakes).

Do you have parents you trust? If you do, talk to them dont be scared.if you do something you regret you have to live with that regret for the rest of your life. I'm the queen of regrets