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Lost generation woman

Rip Van Wrinkle

Hi! I’m over 60 and recently diagnosed ASD. I’ve spent an awful life of being misdiagnosed and even incarcerated, due to the psychiatric services in the second half of the 20th Century having rigid ideas about what mental illness is. Or what it isn’t. Now they can’t get their heads around ASD, and PTSD caused largely by their mistreatment, actually causes depression. They don’t even understand ‘are you hearing voices?’ leads the the logical conclusion ‘Yes. Yours!’ I see the funny side now. Over 45 years too late. I am a whole person, with positive as well as negative attributes. Psychiatrists really do seem incapable of seeing anything other than negatives in patients, in my experience. I think things are improving for the young generation. How many other lost people like me were there? How many are still out there? How do we learn at such a late stage to help ourselves be the best version of ourselves we can be? I am a successful, musical, empathetic person. I am at last finding my wings, like a teenager in a body falling apart!!!! I would love to support other people. And I think it’s so important to each be ourselves. The kids at school these days think they are being so individual ..... yet they all want the same phone/trainers etc. I do believe people should learn to be more tolerant of differences. But what do I know? I’m a 17 year old trapped in a sixty plus year body.

  • in reply to NAS24838

    Hi NAS24938. Good to hear from you. BlueRay is very wise and encouraging. I’d just like to say Hi! Neither of us is alone in our experiences. PTSD is caused by abuse, being bullied etc quite  often. Life has been painful for you, but it’s looking like it will get better. I hope that for both of us, and anyone else on this rollercoaster ride of life. I prefer slow boat rides anyway. Calm, peaceful and scenic. I’m at present working out who I really am and what I want to do, instead of doing stuff to please others. Otherwise I will cease to exist myself .... again. I’m trying to decide on a name for myself in this community. And, yes, I dress a bit young too!

  • Hi I am so glad I read this today....Diagnosed aged 45 after a lifetime of feeling isolated and scared....Came from an abusive family and now have Ptsd also.....I struggle with Agoraphobia/Panic attacks Social anxiety and ended up in hospital 2  weeks before I was diagnosed with the Psychiatrist laughing at me for even suggesting I may be Autistic....The part were you said u feel like a 17yr old trapped in a sixty year plus body really resonates with me.....I even still dress like a teenager lol....so I still don't ever fit in with my peers and probably never will.....I feel lost...I am trying to know thyself as they say but finding it so difficult...I feel like I don't exist if that makes sense....

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    Thanks. I like aspie hugs. () Me being a woman is more biological than relevant. Sometimes I do wonder what I am myself. I’ll think of a name to be here by. I am a person not a number after all! 

  • Hi NAS38168,,it would be nice if you had a user name, but anyway just wanted to welcome you to your tribe/family. Community, call it what you feel happy with but please understand you have found the place you belong, with like minded caring and loving beings, non judgemental and ok some of us are still struggling to come to terms with our lives but with help and support from our family here we will start to feel joy.

    You sound like a 17 year old so good enough for me, I am a child at heart, age? Whatever fits for the moment in hand.

    I am mid fifties bodily.oh and a Male variety but not sure why that is relevant?

    Please allow me to offer you an aspie virtual hug, one of these ()

    you are under no obligation to accept but it is there and offered through kindness,

  • in reply to nexus9

    Thanks for replying, nexus9.  I’m glad to have a believable diagnosis at last. I hope that like me you’ve found ways to cope and space to not cope in when you can’t! Life can be good fun now, I have discovered. I find reading posts really helpful, but don’t want to just lurk! I feel at home here. 

  • Hi and welcome to.the forum. I know others will say the same.

    I am 59 and not been diagnosed as an adult. I got diagnoses as a child though. They saw it as craziness then. Prepsychotic it was called then. I lost my speech after being able to put together gramnatical sentences at 18 months, later on so it was obsessions with letters and numbers and massive tantrums. Being bullied and scapegoated at secondary school. Being blasted at uni for lack of eye contact. So there is a lot of it about.