Published on 12, July, 2020
I thought I’d edit this to remove any offence I may have caused I just wondered what everyone thought of hidden emotional problems to do with autism. The reason I singled out empathy was to explore the realm of autism that is more emotional. I have a lot of help to give to autistic people. For example I will make a post tomorrow about some research I have been doing. I don’t know what it means but it’s interesting. Remember everyone that I am on your side. I care about autistic people more than you can know. It breaks me to see autistic people suffer with what I see as a disease and I have some things to get off my chest. Your all great and very supportive!
Personally I seem to have extreme empathy in some forms. I cannot stand people being hurt (physically or emotionally). But I also struggle with understanding what people are feeling, which seems paradoxical, and when I cannot understand why someone would feel that way, then I don't feel anything.
I have a very strong sense of justice. Mundane things which neurotypicals enjoy and laugh at hurt me deeply and I struggle to understand these things and avoid them. I don't like any situations where people are being made fun of, mocked, or physically injured. I don't understand why it's funny or enjoyable to most people.
I too have extreme empathy which I have to keep it under control. This is so as not to come across as strange, I mean it’s not considered cool for a late 40 yr old guy to be in tears for very little. I find when others are upset, distressed or hurting sets me off. Also I feel great empathy when others are really deserving of something but don’t get what they deserve. It all comes out in the same way for me.
You have explained that so much better than I did. Thank you. It’s like you care so much on the inside but that doesn’t show on the outside to others. I always get told I have little emotion and come across as being cold when inside I’m sobbing. I try not to look at things that trigger those feelings when around others and it seems to keep me out of trouble.
When I feel sad for someone or some creature but there is nothing I can do to help, I bow my head down and with maybe some a bit sad, or I don’t know no expression nod mhm and say nothing. Sometimes I say “that’s bad” and that’s it. While inside I feel the pain of the situation someone described to me, from the outside (as I heard) it looks like I don’t care. So I come across as cold without empathy. But that’s exactly opposite. I feel terribly sad for victims of any sort of violence, wars, for abused animals, if there is a possibility to help somehow - I do it. But I really have no idea how to express to someone else, that I care.