Published on 12, July, 2020
Does this make any kind of sense to anyone?
For me, society seems to be present me with a choice
1. Act normal, uptight and be accepted on the surface, as a walk down the street, but feel depressed, isolated because I have internally obliterated some of the essential quirky parts of my character.
2. Relax, act a bit quirky, and have people avoid me in the street, and be treated like some kind of rapist, mad animal or wierd alien sub-species.
From my own perspective, it seems that people outside have this extra, unnecessary layer, that is like an armed militaristic assault vehicle designed to convince people of their social status - it makes them seem fake, uptight and often rather reactionary, even if they identify as progressive or left wing, because they can't see past their social conditioning needs, that they push in my face at every possible mimenf. If I try to conform to their behaviours of physical uptightness, pushing out my personality like some kind of armed militaristic assault vehicle then my body has to become extremely tense indeed, it's like I'm absorbing all their uptightness, and externally I seem to go to the extreme of their behaviour and often appear robotic or irritable or unreasonably idealistic.
So, that's my dilemma either become robotic or be treated like a potential alien-weirdo-rapist.
Sound familiar, or not?
WiredDifferently said:women typically, but not always, will react to the threat of the invading tribe, with an instinctive fear of rape.
Number said:Walking alone, in the countryside as a single male, does see me treated (in the first instance) as a rapist/murderer......in my experience.
Peter said:oh my sweet summer child. Guys get called a rapist just for looking 'funny' at a women these days.
I found reading these comments disturbing.
It's really a case of 'welcome to my world'.
I've tried very hard to keep myself safe all my life and that includes not walking anywhere alone which is isolated and especially after dark.
It actually ISN'T safe for women and I'm sorry if the repercussion of that is that you feel uncomfortable, but I can assure you it's much worse for us.
If I were walking alone somewhere that I was vulnerable and a single male came towards me (or even worse several) I would instinctively be on high alert, and with good cause.
It's not safe for men either. Statistically you are more likely to be the victim of violent crime if you are a man. And yes statistically the perpetrator of street violence is more likely to be male but I don't assume if a man tries to chat me up in a bar (I used to get miss read as gay from time to time) I'm about to get raped.
There is a distinction between rational caution on a dark street alone at night and treating every male stranger as if they were a sex criminal because they approach you. Especially if they approach you in a busy public place.