Published on 12, July, 2020
I wish there was an autism dating website. I've tried online dating and it's been horrific so far! I feel like it would be better trying to date other autistic people but there don't seem to be any autism sites.
Sometimes I really want to be with someone but because of my autism and difficulties I feel like no one would want me. I've got a job now so I can at least provide for myself but so far everyone I've met online hasn't been very nice and understanding of my difficulties.
Thank you Sparkly and Interface. I do feel like I had a lucky escape, I think I'm just more sorry that he saw me as a retard which isn't true.. I don't think I'm retarded. I'm different yes, struggle with certain things yes but definitely not retarded. Sad he said that.
Agreed, he sounded a nasty piece of work, not deserving of someone like you so you did get a lucky escape there. Our own beauty and qualities, we often do not see them but others see and fall in love with them.
Oh and by the way, The Smiths rock! I hope you find a guy who treats you as you deserve to be treated. Don't give up on yourself.
The problem is there aren't enough autistic people, especially autistic women, to make it feasible. We need a dating website set up for autistic people but that has sufficient appeal to draw in neurotypicals.
Congratulations.
That man sounds truly unpleasant, so I'm inclined to think you had a lucky escape. It can be easy to allow bad experiences to put us off, but if and when you are ready to try dating again, just remember that not every man you meet will be as unkind as that one.
Also, there is more to beauty than what's on the outside.
I've not dated before, I'd like to but last time because I didn't say a lot this man I liked called me a retard and that's since put me off.
I'm not beautiful but I hope I'm nice and kind. If I do date one day then he needs to like Depeche Mode and The Smiths lol
That’s great! So do I, I feel a sense of belonging I never had before. You may like this discussion below where everyone described what this autistic community meant to them (including myself)
https://community.autism.org.uk/f/adults-on-the-autistic-spectrum/30225/what-does-the-forum-mean-to-you/312598#312598
It’s very interesting and emotional to read about the power and impact of our collective autistic community! We are Ausomely Autistic!
I know! It's sooo good
I feel at home here..
Exactly! I feel the same way, our neurokin just ‘get’ it.
Seconded. This forum has been good for me on so many levels since I first joined.
Yeah, I think it's good..
I'm happy here, tbh, it's lovely just to be able to have conversations with people who get what I'm saying...
It means a lot..
boopBrownie said:Today we celebrate 7 months together
Congratulations!
Exactly! Our community is awesomely authentically autistic!
It's nice to know there's an app out there that gives people the opportunity. That's why I like this community because we can connect and have fun without having to mask.
Good to hear that it's going well for you boopBrownie
I genuinely hate online dating. Dumped all that a long time ago.
I genuinely believed that it was impossible to be loved, that I sucked too much etc. But I just happened upon a guy who happened to be on a group project with another person I knew and it has been bumpy and difficult sometimes but he truly makes me so happy.
Today we celebrate 7 months together
I find it easier to deal with people in person.
I didn't know there was a dating/friendship app for the autistic community... I'm pleased that there is, hope it helps ND people connect...
I'm a little surprised that nobody has started something like that on this site. Perhaps it's against regulations.
My last relationship ended because my partner couldn't cope with my behavioural traits, but I can't decide if it would be better or worse to be with someone who has similar traits. Might it make things even harder? I don't really know. What I do know is that I'm happy in my own company about 75% of the time but do have times, usually weekend evenings, where I really wish I had someone to share a movie with, or a bottle of wine, or a curry. I'm not a needy person which means I often lack the capacity to recognise the needs of others.
I met someone online this year. He had autism and it started off great but other people got involved, his friends and mine, and before long there was arguments. We weren't really to blame but we did fall out and because of it neither of us have been able to make up since.
It's sad because I thought the world of him and he did of me as well. It's one of those things where I wish I'd did things differently. I regret how it's ended for us but I think too much has happened and been said for us to mend things.
Hiki is a good app. I've been thinking of trying it out for myself as well. I hope whatever you do you'll find the right person for you and be happy together.