Published on 12, July, 2020
Following a recent discussion I note that some people say they have learnt how to do eye contact. My question is how do you do it?
I have been asked if I am listening as the only way I can consciously try is by looking to the side of someone or looking at a nose or tie. If I look towards someone's eyes I feel like I am staring so then look away.
I’ve had a problem with eye contact since I was a child, I can remember my father telling me off, “people who don’t make eye contact are not trustworthy.” How wrong that was. The usual was teachers, “ look at me when I’m talking to you!” Makes me actually chuckle now, it’s just ignorance.
Yes, it does seem frequently to be a measure of trustworthiness in the court of social opinion..
That was quite verbose... sorry!
But yeah. I've found people assume I'm untrustworthy- at least - if I don't make sufficient eye contact...
Seems bonkers to me, but hey, what do I know... not being part of the human social club is a constant mystery..
This might sound weird but i avoid eye contact because i feel other Peoplecan look into my Eyes and read my thoughts, bearing in mind the Eyes are the window to the soul.Crazy yes, but the feelings are real.
7 % Non verbal ?In that case us ASD'S must be a real head-scratcher for those trying to suss us out !