Struggled Tonight.

Hi Roy, 

I'm so sorry you're feeling stressed by this. Though I do understand house selling is a really stressful process and there's a lot more to it than just 'selling' the house.

I helped my Nan when she sold her house and it was a stressful time for all involved.

I'm glad you have your wife, she sounds a lovely person and I hope the house sells quickly so it's less stressful for you.

Be thinking of you and your wife.

I’ve actually taken the day off of work, feeling like I’ve been beaten up. Hope to catch-up on an audiobook this afternoon and disappear into a good story.

Roy said:

You have seen the view from my bedroom window

LOL

Quite true.
You cant " buy " Mental Health.

Thanks Debs, they seem to like the house, don’t have children and are older people. They have just pulled out of another property as they have a large motor home and newer houses often have a clause in the deeds preventing the parking of caravans or motor homes on the driveway. Our house has a big driveway and older so fine. You have seen the view from my bedroom window and the wife was very taken with it. Sorry that sounds wrong, you have seen a photo of the view.

In response to what you have said...

I understand the desire parents have for their children to do well in life, but it infuriates me when parents consider their child's achievements in life to be more of a priority than their health and happiness.

A neighbour of mine has a daughter that I think works as a nursery assistant. She loves her job and is happy, but her dad doesn't approve because he thinks she should be doing a "better" job that pays more money. I find his attitude rather sad.

I will be keeping everything crossed for you Roy.

If you sell the house, and it goes ahead, you can forget about those stressful viewings.

You are right, I have an acquaintance who teaches music at a fee paying girls school, celebrities send their children there. The girls live in a “ bubble,” they have no concept of how the world actually is. Recently one of the girls had forgotten their lunch, a normal parent may have pinged the child some money to buy lunch, no the father flew the forgotten lunch to school in his helicopter. The sad part was when I drove a school coach. The school had a 100% pass rate for exams, some of the children would be crying on the coach, they just struggled and were being pushed by parents. Our area has a long waiting list for autism assessments, children are hauled off to the doctors for not passing end of term exams, the parents want what they have paid for, basically “ there must be something wrong with my child,” They can’t accept that all children just may not be academic, they often excel in another field and that should be encouraged. The mothers are almost neurotic or did their childhood damage them, their possessions seem more important than the child, if you don’t excel you won’t have the Chelsea tractor and money.

My wife and I were born in the same local hospital ward and no we aren’t related! We bought our first house when she was 18 and both often had 3 jobs to get by. We are both in our 50’s now and want to have a quieter life.

As it was the same people returning for a second viewing, I will keep my fingers crossed for you that they put in an offer that you are able to accept.

Regarding your comment about clones, I often think the same, especially with the majority of young females I see. Although I realise that it might come across as rather derogatory, I cannot help feeling that they all look the same. As though they have been mass-produced in a factory, and look artificial to the extent of not looking human.

I find it even more disturbing when I realise that the mothers driving around in their 'Chelsea taxis' also look equally as artificial.

Sorry Roy, I've veered completely off-topic here. 

It was the same people having a second viewing, The area has massive amounts of privately funded schools, we have had loads of families view and  want to life in the nearest town which is £500K for a two up, two down.  The school signs promise well rounded individuals who will excel and go further.  All I see is clones walking out or being picked up mainly in black SUV cars. They aren’t individuals in anyway just the next generation of mum or dad.

I am so sorry that you have found yourself struggling, but at least you were not on your own and your wife was able to take over when the viewing got too much.

Selling a house is not something I've experienced, but I'm aware that what it involves can be incredibly stressful. Not just for autistic people, but for anyone. Tough times because as a seller you don't really want to be in the situation of lowering the asking price too much. Well, not unless you can afford to do so and are desperate for a quick sale.

Out of interest, was the second viewing by the same person/people? Or, did you mean second viewing full stop since putting your house on the market?

Thanks for your reply, the reward is finally moving to Cornwall and having a house with a holiday let designed for autistic people and my car workshop onsite. Keeping our house in showroom condition has been easy for me but I don’t live alone!

It is tough selling in this market - I had a flat that I put on the market last July and ended up having to drop it 30% from the price the agent promised it would "fly off the shelf for" to actually get a buyer. I still made a decent profit on it so I was OK given the market forcast.

I think getting the right price point is important - what you think it is worth rarely lines up with what people are willing to pay so you may need to look at the trend in prices from land registry and be realistic with what you are asing.

The sale process is a ballache though - I had my flat in showroom condition for months while living there and had people through most days (it was well priced but quite small and not on a good street) so it was tiring having to wash up dishes straight away whenever we ate something and couldn't leave anything lying around in case we got a drop in visit.

It took 2 months in the end plus another 6 weeks of waiting for the sale to go through then I shipped the contents off to storage and moved to Brazil - a nice reward for all the work I put into the renovation and the waiting game of the sale.

Do you have a reward planned for when you do finally sell?