Published on 12, July, 2020
Have had our house on the market for exactly one year, the bank interest rate started to go higher and prices have altered very quickly, had an actual second viewing this evening, we have reduced the price 3 times now. I haven’t really slept since being told about the second viewing on Saturday. The people just wore me out, an hour of questions and tape measures. I was very monotone, in the end I just said sorry, I’ve run out of words. My wife took over and told me I had done really well, my brain is now wizzing and can’t slow down. Sorry just venting.
I am so sorry that you have found yourself struggling, but at least you were not on your own and your wife was able to take over when the viewing got too much.
Selling a house is not something I've experienced, but I'm aware that what it involves can be incredibly stressful. Not just for autistic people, but for anyone. Tough times because as a seller you don't really want to be in the situation of lowering the asking price too much. Well, not unless you can afford to do so and are desperate for a quick sale.
Out of interest, was the second viewing by the same person/people? Or, did you mean second viewing full stop since putting your house on the market?
It was the same people having a second viewing, The area has massive amounts of privately funded schools, we have had loads of families view and want to life in the nearest town which is £500K for a two up, two down. The school signs promise well rounded individuals who will excel and go further. All I see is clones walking out or being picked up mainly in black SUV cars. They aren’t individuals in anyway just the next generation of mum or dad.
Quite true.You cant " buy " Mental Health.
In response to what you have said...
I understand the desire parents have for their children to do well in life, but it infuriates me when parents consider their child's achievements in life to be more of a priority than their health and happiness.
A neighbour of mine has a daughter that I think works as a nursery assistant. She loves her job and is happy, but her dad doesn't approve because he thinks she should be doing a "better" job that pays more money. I find his attitude rather sad.
You are right, I have an acquaintance who teaches music at a fee paying girls school, celebrities send their children there. The girls live in a “ bubble,” they have no concept of how the world actually is. Recently one of the girls had forgotten their lunch, a normal parent may have pinged the child some money to buy lunch, no the father flew the forgotten lunch to school in his helicopter. The sad part was when I drove a school coach. The school had a 100% pass rate for exams, some of the children would be crying on the coach, they just struggled and were being pushed by parents. Our area has a long waiting list for autism assessments, children are hauled off to the doctors for not passing end of term exams, the parents want what they have paid for, basically “ there must be something wrong with my child,” They can’t accept that all children just may not be academic, they often excel in another field and that should be encouraged. The mothers are almost neurotic or did their childhood damage them, their possessions seem more important than the child, if you don’t excel you won’t have the Chelsea tractor and money.
My wife and I were born in the same local hospital ward and no we aren’t related! We bought our first house when she was 18 and both often had 3 jobs to get by. We are both in our 50’s now and want to have a quieter life.
As it was the same people returning for a second viewing, I will keep my fingers crossed for you that they put in an offer that you are able to accept.
Regarding your comment about clones, I often think the same, especially with the majority of young females I see. Although I realise that it might come across as rather derogatory, I cannot help feeling that they all look the same. As though they have been mass-produced in a factory, and look artificial to the extent of not looking human.
I find it even more disturbing when I realise that the mothers driving around in their 'Chelsea taxis' also look equally as artificial.
Sorry Roy, I've veered completely off-topic here.