Published on 12, July, 2020
Please know that I'm not writing this to be deliberately inflammatory or provocative, or to have a go at anyone here, but I just feel so isolated as an Autistic woman. Most other Autistic people I've engaged with are men, and seem to have quite a different presentation and outlook on life to me. They are often very blunt, whereas I'm not. When I get emotional, they don't seem to understand - I've been accused of 'emotionally exploding', for example, simply for expressing that I felt uncomfortable with a conversation. It's more than that, though, to be honest I'm finding it quite hard to explain in logical terms...I just don't feel I fit in in the Autism world or the neurotypical world, and I'm wondering if this is because I'm female. Does anyone else feel this way?
Yes - the same fir everyone. Autism doesn’t mean I connect with autistics necessarily. Especially the autists who are trying to be NT mostly. The ones in denial of their autism.
Also as a post-script ~ "If you've met one person with autism, you've met one person with autism."
This is probably going to sound sexist but I've measured women aspies as 'aspie-lite' The get all the disadvantages of blunt thinking and logical like a bloke along with most of the social skills needed to be able to hide in plain sight - but having to live and perform in the female environment - which is brutal to 'outsiders'.
It's a position where I usually see two outcomes - they either become outcasts / oddballs or they rise through the ranks very quickly in business due to the iron hand in the velvet glove approach.
As someone who is of the male sex and of a more female gender I do not do the blunt thing either, but I do have to keep a check on my emotional expressiveness particularly around men and most women.
Anyway ~ I very very much indeed found the following website by Samantha Craft really gave me my first complete understanding and comprehension of my autistic traits:
https://the-art-of-autism.com/females-and-aspergers-a-checklist/
Perhaps also check out the following seriously good descriptive write up by Claire Jack PhD:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-autism-spectrum-disorder/202104/10-signs-autism-in-women
I'm trying to understand where you could possibly be getting your information from, as non of this is factually accurate.
I'm female, and there are certainly more of us on here. I'm still waiting for my assessment. Women generally don't present the same way as men. When I first found out that I was likely to be on the spectrum, it was through a counsellor. I then started reading about it, and it took a lot of time before I began to get to the experiences of women on the spectrum. Before then, I was quite confused by what my counsellor had seen as I thought I was 'normal', and I just kind of sucked at life.
Women are not as smart as men!? Did you REALLY just type that??
I'm an autistic male and you could almost be describing me there! Apart from the bluntness - I'm guilty of that and I'm trying to improve.
As far as emotions I feel a hell of a lot, too much if anything.