Am I wrong to feel offended by...

If you want to feel offended, go ahead, there's no right or wrong to it.

I, personally, would instead ask, does it benefit me to be offended?

It is common for autistic people to take offence at things like this because we live in our own little worlds so we think the world evolves around us, therefore anything that happens around us, we think it is all about us and we therefore take it personally and feel offended. NT people are generally not as self obsessed as we are and therefore they are able to not take it personally and not be offended and they're able to see clearly that, even if they don't like the changes, they can see that they have absolutely nothing at all to do with them but in fact, something much bigger than them, like they have pointed out, you are not the only one that the changes effect.

So go ahead, if you want to take it personally, like you're the centre of the universe, by all means kick and scream like a two year old, who also thinks they're the centre of the universe and if it works for you, there's no right or wrong and no judgment. You don't need anybody's permission to be p****d off. And I'm sure you equally do the heads in of the management at your work, it's just how it goes, life is but a mirror. But yeah, get that anger out one way or another and if blaming someone else works for you and makes you happy, go for it. The others who you blame won't care, because they know it's not actually true and they'll just think you're acting like a two year old or something, unless they know you're autistic and then they can be much more open with you, maybe?

Anyway, no. it's not wrong to feel offended, that's your feeling, your choice and you can feel what you want.

A bit harsh.

Your use of language and your implication that I'm  having a tantrum like a 2 years offends me.

You don't know me, so I'll thank you not to generalise.

I'm not generalizing, show me an autistic person who doesn't live in their own bubble! And that's me added to the list of people who offend you then :)

I'm not taking sides but surely we are better people than this and must be mindful that the purpose of the forum is to have a place that we feel secure to raise concerns, worries, seek support and be part of a network and feel less marginalised.

We have been here before, where it all becomes very Lord of the Flies.  Its ugly.  

Surely if you do not agree with someone's post, you are not duty bound to reply.  Also bear in mind that although there can be great synergy of experience on the forum our views are often very subjective.... but please do not resort to verbal abuse.  Question that viewpoint, find out how it was arrived at, or chose to ignore it.

Ellie and her female genitalia signing off.

Maybe a violent door?? Ffs

Guys - this makes me wanna puke! 

Youre all ganging up like NTs do! It’s sinply wrong. If you don’t agree - perhaps you’re not autistic. Blue ray is spot on. 

I’m a selfish mfer. Of course We ALL are. 

If if you think otherwise. Stop trying to be NT. 

thats the whole hole issue with this piece of shite site. 

Autistics trying to please NTs. Forget it folks. 

NTs and autistics are like comparing a cat with a dog. We are a different species. The autistics who realise this are enlightened and live in Heaven in Earth mostly. Awe and wonder. 

Tone?? Are you kidding? This Is a forum. I can’t hear any tone at all. 

Maybe this article will help you understand yourself a little better. Some of the wording is a little out dated but it's still pretty accurate. And if you don't identify, then as it says, you could still be somewhere on the spectrum but it isn't bothering you enough for you to get a diagnosis, which is what the article describes, or for want of a better word, you are at the mild end of the spectrum, which would explain why you were all getting so upset. I'm full on autistic so I identify totally with this description, but you're right, there are clearly others who are on the fringes of the spectrum who don't identify, which explains why you are all so upset so maybe you would read this article and learn nothing at all because it's not describing you, it's describing somebody at the more so called severe end of the spectrum, within the scope of Asperger's as it was known when the article was written. In which case, I apologize, I thought you had all been diagnosed with autism. 

http://www.autismtruths.org/pdf/Autism%20-%20'autos'%20%20Literally%20a%20total%20focus%20on%20the%20self%20-%20Simon%20Baron-Cohen.pdf

hahaha I'm sorry but I can't help myself, this is hilarious, I know I shouldn't laugh but hey, I'm autistic as well and this is my space as well. If you think that I have low self esteem you have clearly not read any of my posts. What do you think autism is? 

And for the record, I'm not speaking for anybody other than myself, stop taking things so personally and why the heck have you brought your kids into this? lol! 

If you think you are degraded for being autistic, that's your view, I would say it is you therefore that has low self esteem, I accept myself with open arms, my self obsession makes me the kindest person I know. I love all people unconditionally, I don't know how not to and I don't take offence from anything anybody on this planet could say, how is that even possible? How can a stereotype damage somebody, unless they believe it to be true about themselves and it's something they don't like but then again, how can somebody not like themselves? That's beyond my comprehension. If you don't like yourself you're gonna have a hard time in life because you can't get away from yourself.

Don't let the door hit you on the way out.

simply the nature of autism

Not all!

It is not the nature of autism but the vial ableism and myth about it that you seem have absorbed and distribute now.

No one can stop you thinking whatever you like about yourself privately, also it must be damaging for your self esteem and mental health to internalise such crap.

But you cannot speak for others, let alone for 'all' autistic people as a group. This ideas are degrading and damaging stereotypes!

You do not speak for me or my children. Plastic seem have made his position crear.

none lol, what makes you think I'm having some trouble?

Jesus, just read your own post back and if self obsession doesn't jump out at you, you need to read up on what autism is. The word itself  literally means ‘self’-ism, derived from the Greek word ‘autos’ (‘self’). It's not a, what's it called, a judgement or saying something bad, that is simply the nature of autism, that is why we have difficulties in social situations and communication etc, it's why we love our obsessions etc, it's not a bad thing, it's just who we are. It doesn't mean that we don't care about others etc, we often care more about others than most people, but seriously, we cannot ignore the very basis of what autism is. Well we can if we want to live in denial, I suppose, which is always a choice, so you win, because this is getting beyond ridiculous, a bunch of autistic people who haven't got a clue about autism! I'm out of here, I'll leave you lot to swim in the denial. Adios amigos, but you really should listen to your colleagues and your bosses, your work is good and this is not about you. 

What part of "you're not being helpful" are you having trouble understanding?

You call me selfish and self-obsessed then  proceed to ignore my request for you to stop posting in this thread then declare you can do whatever you like and carry on being unhelpful and disrespectful.

You don't know me so cut out the psychoanalysis and stop being such a tool.

and who's been giving advice? I simply answered his question and said what I would do but that's hardly advice and as for the rest, I have no idea what you're talking about?

oh my god, stop what???? Seriously, what are you all talking about????

Now I'm really confused?!?!?!? I think I must have missed a post or two?!?!?

I don't know how to do sarcasm nor do I recognise it so I can assure you, I'm not being sarcastic or making a joke.

Of course a diagnosis doesn't involve a value judgement? What are you talking about? I'm lost now? 

Seriously, just stop.

Have you been reading too much autism hate propaganda masquerading as advice?

You are joking, right?

Sorry, I am new here, I was lurking, but obviously just scratched the surface, I obviously have issues with sarcasm.

Diagnostic criteria do not involve any value judgements you mentioned. If I didn't know better, I would have thought they are common stereotypes and prejudices.

... no surprise there, when you get offended by the people who tell you you're work is good so obviously somebody telling you something you don't like, is going to make you feel mega offended.

How did you get a diagnosis? I know we don't think we're self obsessed, obviously, a self obsessed person would never know that they're self obsessed but the diagnosis spells it out.

Why do so many autistic people take things so personally if they're not self obsessed and think the world revolves around them? It's not possible to take things personally and be offended if you're not self obsessed, it's  simply not possible.

A none obsessed, rational person, if they felt p****d off with changes, would speak up to the person who told them because they wouldn't think it was personal so therefore they would know that they were in with a chance of keeping that job or they wouldn't think much at all about it, like his non autistic colleagues.

I don't know what you mean by standards. I don't think being self obsessed aka autistic, is a standard, it's just the way the autistic brain works, it's why we get our nickers in a twist so often at things most people wouldn't glance twice at. Everybody is self obsessed, including mother Teresa, but we're self obsessed on steroids. I'm sorry you didn't realise that.

Exactly this.

The tone and attitude he conveys is offensive to me.

Exactly this.

The tone and attitude he conveys is offensive to me.

I'm not taking sides but surely we are better people than this and must be mindful that the purpose of the forum is to have a place that we feel secure to raise concerns, worries, seek support and be part of a network and feel less marginalised.

We have been here before, where it all becomes very Lord of the Flies.  Its ugly.  

Surely if you do not agree with someone's post, you are not duty bound to reply.  Also bear in mind that although there can be great synergy of experience on the forum our views are often very subjective.... but please do not resort to verbal abuse.  Question that viewpoint, find out how it was arrived at, or chose to ignore it.

Ellie and her female genitalia signing off.

Guys - this makes me wanna puke! 

Youre all ganging up like NTs do! It’s sinply wrong. If you don’t agree - perhaps you’re not autistic. Blue ray is spot on. 

I’m a selfish mfer. Of course We ALL are. 

If if you think otherwise. Stop trying to be NT. 

thats the whole hole issue with this piece of shite site. 

Autistics trying to please NTs. Forget it folks. 

NTs and autistics are like comparing a cat with a dog. We are a different species. The autistics who realise this are enlightened and live in Heaven in Earth mostly. Awe and wonder. 

Tone?? Are you kidding? This Is a forum. I can’t hear any tone at all. 

... no surprise there, when you get offended by the people who tell you you're work is good so obviously somebody telling you something you don't like, is going to make you feel mega offended.