What led you seek diagnosis?
My ex was the catalyst, mentioning things. Then I heard spouses of aspergers on the Jeremy Vine show and it was everything the ex said. Short while after I was advised to get tested for dyslexia, dyspraxia, dyscalculia, ADD and aspergers, I phoned dyslexia helpline and they told me to get tested for aspergers. I did online searches and it was mixed emotions of upset and elation as I found out about it and understood certain things and other things made more sense.
Still to seek a formal diagnosis but presently self diagnosed.
the epiphany was having everything change over the past couple of years...new job, new relationship, moved house etc and was still not content.....the “problem” was me!
I started seeing patterns and wondered that it might be me and not them!
It’s definitely you! Lol (joke)
Like you, I started to see patterns, then looked at Aspie women’s traits....I printed off Tania Marshall’s checklist and highlighted the areas I identified with.....it would have been quicker to highlight the areas I didn’t? Then an AQ test.......then lots of reading and academic papers, then joining here which sparked even more identification