A fascinating topic. I cant quite figure out all of this but one thing I would say is that as well as being manipulated into hatred we are also being manipulated into fear. 

If you look at the news in the last few years, we are constantly being made to…

Welcome to the forum.

I think you're quite right to be concerned. Of course, we can't diagnose anyone over the internet, but the things that you've pointed out are consistent with autism or some other developmental condition. It's also not unusual for…

TheCatWoman said:

I've been cooking today,

That is one of the great things about this time of the year in the UK - so much fruit and veg is appearing in the markets at low prices so you can do lots of this sort of thing.

I love to do big batches of…

A few of my experiences, good and bad, which may inspire some useful adaptations:

I didn't get diagnosed until aged 30 so went through my undergrad at uni not knowing why I found it so miserable. Fortunately, we didn't have 'seminars' and 'tutorials'…

Autistic people tend to be late developers - but I suspect the fact you're doing everything for him means he's still 8 years old in his mind.   As he's on a degree course, is he actually able to do all the work or is he going off the rails? 

NAS88453 said:

I feel it’s maybe an anxiety comfort thing but I am going to have to put a stop to the pillow not being in the exact place he needs it

It will be tough, but you need to wean him off this ritual.

When I talked about tiring him out I was thinking…

I literally forget everything:

I forgot where I’ve put things that I currently have in my hand.

I forgot to vacuum when I have placed it in front of the TV that I am watching (it becomes part of the acceptable environment),

I forget things that…