Swearing

Hi everyone! My 6 year old son is asd, and the past couple of weeks he has started swearing a lot. It was just at home, but ow he does it when we are out. It's mostly directed at me, and he is really horrible. I don't know what to do, I try to stay calm, and I have explained that they are grown up words, but each day is getting worse. Any advice would be greatly received. Thanks

  • It’s really hard. Obviously it’s not nice to hear but they are JUST words. I would suggest drip feeding the words “kind” and “respectful” and that these words are neither. 

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  • You could try speaking to the police, head teacher, parish priest or other athority figure about this, to give him a “short, sharp shock” - I’m a great believer in ultra strict child discipline, especially at that age - and taking the “zero tolerance” approach right from the start will pay dividends later on, not just for the parents, but far more importantly, for the child’s own benefit, to equip the child for the challenges of later life - allowing this behaviour to continue is simply not an option, not least because if he does this to someone else, they might react to this by giving him a severe beating or worse as a direct consequence 

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  • Hi, my 6 nearly 7 year old is fascinated with swear words too. I really think it is an age thing and it will pass. My boy started by not saying them, he gets very cross if he hears anyone swear, I have one friend who does it a lot (makes me so cross!) And he said he didn't like her because of it. I have now been told by his brother and cousin that he's said a couple of words so think he testing it a bit. We just say they are "banned words". If he's starting to do it habitually tell him to stop himself straight away or immediately say oops sorry everytime he realises he's said a "banned word".  If he won't apologise (our son doesn't like to) then it's time to sit and think about it for 2 mins away in a quiet area. Massive rewards for when he realises his own mistake should help too. It won't last forever and don't feel the need to apologise to the world when it happens. If you think it's in a rude way in front of others then maybe suggest he apologises to them too. X

  • Observe him to work out what the "logic" is behind this behaviour. Is it attention seeking? Is it when he is stressed? 

    I suspect that he's not aware of the emotional content of his words. I also suspect it will have come from kids at school, so ask the school to keep an eye on the interaction between kids in his class - is he repeating a behaviour being done to him.

    Create a social story around the benefits of not using those words.

    If it is stress related, help him find other ways of channelling the feelings.

  • There is nothing really you can do. If someone wants to do to that, you can do anything you want, but in the end there is no way how you can stop someone to do something he wants.