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Not finishing things

AspBea
7 days ago

I never finish anything. 

Lol it's literally like it sounds. I start things and then I just abandon it. I started learning the guitar, stopped after a day. I write, either just for fun or working on a book or assignments...then I just stop.

I think I lose interest or mmaybe it's anxiety that it won't be any good? Anxiety that I'll fail?

Then just now I started making a sandwich and drink and stopped midway through no longer feeling interested in it. This causes me issues at times with self neglect because I don't eat and drink enough... and my school stuff goes unfinished.

Just curious really as to why I'm like this and if anyone else about this site can relate to it. I tell my family and they just stare at me. 

If it's something you do to let me know, would be nice if it's not just a me thing!BlushBlush

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  • 7 days ago

    I pick up interests and activities as I go along in life and have them in a sort of toy box of the mind, or in a file systems in my brain. I can return and pick interests and activities up again as my mind and circumstances suit.

    I do end up "finishing" activities, I may just take a little longer than your average bear. I do have to admit that having everything burn in that fire clarified some things for me, like what I need to really let go of - including cherished values I did not know I had been harbouring and which I had out grown.  a few things in my mental toy box have been donated back to collective unconscious, some files pulped to make room for new understanding.

    Some of my interests will be lifelong and I will never really be 'finished', like learning a language, studying a subject. I will always finish things like writing a story through to submission, making a meal, painting a painting, keeping appointments (with lots of alarms and reminders on my phone) and taking a round of meds til the bottles empty. For me it is the sensation of enjoyment in the adsorption in the activity or interest in the moment.

    If I had a business card it would probably read "Dharma Bum" as a job title, I suppose.

    Of one thing I know for certain, I am an eternal being so, no rush.

  • 7 days ago in reply to Uhane

    Oh wow you have such an awesome beautiful way of thinking and looking at things. I love that! I wish I was more like you in my ways of thinking... I feel like my own thinking thought pattern is so self destructive and causes me more harm than good. But there's time for all this to change so I try not to worry about it. 

    Reading your words I imagine inside your mind it must be peaceful and tranquil, neat and tidy. When you think do you picture it like that? My social worker and therapist has tried to get me to try and picture my mind in such a way... so far it's been an unsuccessful mission lol but it's something I continue to work on.
     
    Small steps = big things. Hopefully better things!
     
    It's good you finish most things. I seriously need to work on this! I do a lot of writing but most likely haven't even finished 15% of what I started writing. I've got several books half filled with writing and on my computer there's even more. Learning languages is fun! I've been working on learning Italian. This is something I enjoy and have stuck to doing!
     
    Do you do much yoga, mindfulness, exercise?? I do yoga. I follow a few different ones on YT though try not to do too many otherwise it gets overwhelming and I don't stick to it. Then again I struggle to stick to it during week days because I'm always wrecked after school.
     
    Weekends are my zoning times. I can really relax then, find that inner peace within myself where I can just float in the aether where anxiety is banned and only peacefulness is allowed. 
    I don't get there often but when I do I have achieved peace. 
  • 6 days ago in reply to AspBea

    I don't have time here to respond but I would like to so I wil lsend you a friend request and we can talk more..please cut/paste this thread in the pm and I can get back to you. I'm on a 20 minute a day diet on the forum but PM-ing: I spend a bit more time at and it's more focused. I do a lot of PMing. I think we could be good NAS friends.

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  • 6 days ago in reply to AspBea

    I don't have time here to respond but I would like to so I wil lsend you a friend request and we can talk more..please cut/paste this thread in the pm and I can get back to you. I'm on a 20 minute a day diet on the forum but PM-ing: I spend a bit more time at and it's more focused. I do a lot of PMing. I think we could be good NAS friends.

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