Do you hate having ASD and wish you were neurotypical ?

Since realising that I am ‘on the spectrum, (having been assessed and diagnosed) which of course explains and gives reason for my behaviour and way of thinking, nonetheless, I’ve come to bitterly regret being this way - to the extent of feeling cursed. Does anybody else feel this way and would you - as I do - take a safe cure for it, if there was one? I’d hate to think I was alone in this regard.

  • I feel like I am typical of myself. The older I get, the more myself I feel.

  • It's them, but they outnumber us and are self-organising, so practically, it's us!

  • Auitsic people can do well, then there's 500 pages on "how to cope"...

    Well yeah - because we're all trying to cope in a society that at the least, is ill-equipped for us. 

    Is it us? Or is it society?

  • We are all pretty much the end of our genetic line, hadn't you noticed?

    It's got less to do with your autism and more to do with how things generally are...

  • Well it’s caused me to be the end of my genetic line, which is very painful to me. So much for evolution.

  • I simply don't see how anyone's menteal health is preserved by pretending Autism is anything other than it it is.

    Autism is a neurotype, a result of years of human evolution!

  • I will admit I am struggling a lot with PMA (positive mental attitude) as I was programmed in my youth to have a fairly poor one.

    I read books on autism and up to about page 10 they compare and contrast, and talk about the things Auitsic people can do well, then there's 500 pages on "how to cope"...

    Now when I take a look at my own basic motivations (Kind of an obligation as a traineee christian like keeping your car in good mechanical order) I see a degree of "difference" alright, but it presents as a "disorder" to the majority.    

    I simply don't see how anyone's menteal health is preserved by pretending Autism is anything other than it it is.

    A failure to make a good self representaion.

    The only counter to it's pernicious effects on one's life, I have so far found, is to make one's essential motivations and essence intrinsically good and useful to those around you. 

    I'd LIKE to see my Autism in a good light, but I'm more interested in really knowing what it it is, than being the good guy in the "story". And that knowing, suggests that Autism gives people a LOT of REAL PROBLEMS.

    There's also not a lot of articles written here that paint Autism in a good light  (But there are some, thank you roswell, debbie,uhane, number and a few others only left out because I'm in a bit of a rush)

    The Only PMA I really have, is that what I have CAN be useful in some situations, and I am entitled to charge as much as anyone else for it, but actually need to charge more, if I can.

  • We are different, neurodivergent! It’s so important to understand and make this paradigm shift as otherwise viewing yourself as disordered can have significant negative implications on your mental health and is not helpful for anyone.

  • Speak for yourself. My workbench says otherwise.. 

    I try to tell myself that it's "just different", but it isn't really...

  • I don't think so, from his writing, myself.

  • More to the point, just how much of a 'sperglord is Admiral Robert Heinlein anyway?

  • Is the man who fell to earth (from mars) also AD, ya think?

  • a tragedy.

  • * I meant 'neurodivergent', not "neurotypical", obviously.

  • You are asking people if they would like to undo an entire lifetime of getting to know themselves, to reset their personality to zero and start again from scratch as a person with completely new foms of perception and behaviour, and therefore opions and values. I think that would be be harder and more stressful than just learning to cope with having ASD. Not to mention losing all the cool benefits of being neurotypical. Be careful what you wish for. Hollywood movies are very specific about that, it always turns out bad.

  • That would be a disaster!

    But I don’t think that’s a specifically autistic trait.

  • What if that pill make you too busy or otherwise aligned that you lose the abilty to "Grok" with the cats?

  • You can!!

    Just "identify" as Non-Autistic, and the difference is gone!

    I've just had nearly a whole day of being neurotypical!  

    (To be honest It has not felt much different to what I was before, but maybe I need to give it more time to kick in)

    Tomorrow I'l embrace all those acronyms again, and celebrate having "prevailed" mostly in life, despite carrying all those letters around...  

  • What they meant was 'I've seen Rainman, and being exposed to a 90 minute theatrical represetation of a more extreme form autism (about whcih I would otherwise know literally nothing) makes me qualified enought to contradict you, what with me being an arrogant, ignorant, ***.'

    I once had a guy threaten to beat me up (we very nearly came to blows and would have were it not for others intervening) because I said I had PTSD (I have, btw), even though everything he knew about PTSD could be summed up in 6 words: it's that thing that soldiers get.

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