Published on 12, July, 2020
We think my husband might have Autism, he is on a waiting list to see someone.
The problem is I have a very high sex drive and he doesn't seem to have one at all. We have been together for 11 years and I always thought things would get better, but they haven't.
Finally today he has said one of the reasons is he doesn't like the smell of me down there, I'm not dirty and I don't notice a smell, so I explained to him that its natural for there to be a smell down there.
I also asked him if there is anything I can do to help him and he said no, he just needs to get over this by himself.
He said he has no idea how he is going to get over it and after always being like this, I can't see how he can just get over it.
I would be grateful for any advice on this.
Isn’t it better to light a candle than curse the dark? Isn’t it wiser to change a situation if a person can’t change themselves?
no one really knows if they smell. We all get used to our own smell. And autistic people often have hyper sensitivities to things like certain smells. If eliminating your body oder, even if it’s not particularly noticeable to normal people, is what it takes to improve your sex life isn’t it worth it?
Hi, thank you for your comment.
The reason I wrote on here was for help and ideas on what to do to improve our sex life, so if anyone has any ideas, I'm willing to try them.
I mean in terms of reducing body oder why not remove your pubic hair? Body hair is a major retainer of sweat and the bacteria that feed off sweat. You can buy special deodorant considered safe for use in that area.
ive had female friends complain to me that boyfriends don’t shower enough but I can’t think of many man who wouldn’t take a shower if he was told sex would happen after. Maybe bathing or even dushing immediately before sex would help.
but ultimately you’ve got to get inside your husbands head and figure out what turns him on. Even people who aren’t very sexual usually have at least one fantasy or activity that turns them on. If you can find your husbands buttons you can probably get quite far just by hammering them repeatedly.