Published on 12, July, 2020
There is a behaviour that happens on this forum and it is worse than trolling because the poster may or may not be genuine, and you care about them but then no matter what you suggest to try help them they won't accept it. They might as well preface their original post with "whatever you say I have accepted my fate and it is bad, it just sucks to be autistic, you should feel bad too" and have it over with.That may not be their intention, but we know intention counts for nothing compared to the result. So here it is the lesson learned today, don't wast your energy trying to help those that don't want to be helped. Yes you are right to care, yes you are right to be confused but you need to recognise the cut off point.You cannot save a drowning man by reaching out to him if he won't reach back. For our own sakes as autistic people we need to maintain our own emotional energy, and self preservation is not selfish.Yes there was a specific incident that set off the need to post this, but it's not just about one person, there are others who have and will come in here and engage in this behavior. And whether they mean to or not it harms the community here because it creates the same effect as feeding-the-doom-trolls-comes-at-a-cost and takes it's toll on our collective mental health. It's great to care, I wish more people cared, but please keep yourselves safe and healthy first.
Maybe the "thoughtful advice" you are giving is total rubbish, and the recipient does not want to argue with somebody unable to understand the problem?
You crossed a line earlier from simply expressing your frustration and annoyance, (which I understand very well thank you!) to attempting to interfere in me helping someone find information a possible alternative and effective treatment for a life threatening condition.
From this side of the screen you look like a thoroughly miserable and unpleasantly pathetic person.
Like me in my twenties.
Snap out of it, or you'll end up living a truly nasty life.
I Sperg said:you look like a thoroughly miserable and unpleasantly pathetic person.
Spergy, maybe you are accustomed to speak like this with your family, but I am not related to you, thankfully.
It’d be better to go full circle though..
I don't blame people for wanting to lash back when people lash out at them, it's one of the most natural human emotional responses, it's not toxic to want to defend yourself, but I made this thread originally to try help preserve people's mental health. Not platform a space for folk to be rude to eachother. I explained the full context of why I actually wrote this thread months ago to another person in DMs and I'm gonna just reveal that in a moment because as much as I didn't want to talk about such an oof topic aft the time I now think the context was actually pretty vital to fully understand the post. But if people cannot stop namecalling eachother I'm just going to ask a mod to close the whole thing down.
You’re not toxic I Sperg , we just seem to have gone down this one rabbit-hole atm, but I wouldn’t characterise you by your reaction to aggravation anyway.
Additionally, it’s probably worth mentioning that Judge has had an unusually rough fortnight anyway, if I may be so bold as to state that, so I just consider this series of replies to be an unfortunate melting-pot of bad vibes.
Such as this interaction is, I’m counting the characters until this clash is done with, we’re only giving each other palpitations by perpetuating it..
Seriously dude, read what you've written since you joined and the words you choose.
Your baseline posts kinda matches many peoples "extremely annoyed" postings.
I will admit, That I should have been more precise in my words, and have written "You PRESENT yourself like a thoroughly.." Etc.
You've actually got something to say, of value to this community when you aren't trying to be needlessly annoying, but your chosen method of presentation is even more toxic than my own.