Don't waste spoons on people that ask for your advice but don't want it.

There is a behaviour that happens on this forum and it is worse than trolling because the poster may or may not be genuine, and you care about them but then no matter what you suggest to try help them they won't accept it. They might as well preface their original post with "whatever you say I have accepted my fate and it is bad, it just sucks to be autistic, you should feel bad too" and have it over with.
That may not be their intention, but we know intention counts for nothing compared to the result. So here it is the lesson learned today, don't wast your energy trying to help those that don't want to be helped. Yes you are right to care, yes you are right to be confused but you need to recognise the cut off point.
You cannot save a drowning man by reaching out to him if he won't reach back. For our own sakes as autistic people we need to maintain our own emotional energy, and self preservation is not selfish.
Yes there was a specific incident that set off the need to post this, but it's not just about one person, there are others who have and will come in here and engage in this behavior. And whether they mean to or not it harms the community here because it creates the same effect as  feeding-the-doom-trolls-comes-at-a-cost and takes it's toll on our collective mental health.
It's great to care, I wish more people cared, but please keep yourselves safe and healthy first.

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  • I don't blame people for wanting to lash back when people lash out at them, it's one of the most natural human emotional responses, it's not toxic to want to defend yourself, but I made this thread originally to try help preserve people's mental health. Not platform a space for folk to be rude to eachother. I explained the full context of why I actually wrote this thread months ago to another person in DMs and I'm gonna just reveal that in a moment because as much as I didn't want to talk about such an oof topic aft the time I now think the context was actually pretty vital to fully understand the post. But if people cannot stop namecalling eachother  I'm just going to ask a mod to close the whole thing down.

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