Hello, I'm new

Hello,

I am also new, I am in my 30s, a male! I have read a lot about Asperger's syndrome and I think I have it.

I'm struggling to explain what's going on in my head in words when talking. It is easier for me to do in writing.

I'm avoiding phone calls as much as I can. It is so upsetting that most of companies want to contact them by phone but it is so difficult for me. It is much easier for me to use e-mails, SMS, letters.

I would be interested to find a friend who has similar difficulties.

Hi California, 

welcome here :) 
As Daniel said, have a look at the AQ Test and possible talk to your GP about it.

Writing is so much easier for me, I can completely understand you! I don't like chatting to people face to face very much, especially, when I don't know them, or when I am uncomfortable with them.
I don't like being on the phone, as I pick up every little noise. I often don't understand the person on the other end. When I talk to people I look at their mouth, to see what they say. 

And again I agree with Daniel, nice to meet you here :)

I also don't like chatting to people face to face very much, especially, when I don't know them, or when I am uncomfortable with them.
I don't like being on the phone, as I also pick up every little noise. I often don't understand the person on the other end and when this happens I get very nervous and panic. However, when I talk to people I do not look at them usually. I look everywhere else. I find it very difficult to look in somebody eyes.

I am now adult, but in school I was experiencing a lot of problems and I could not understand why my life was so difficult but now Aspergers explain everything. I find this so relieving. Everything makes sense now.

Hi California.

I find that writing a script works well.

I have even writen flow diagrams based on what answers I might get, so the conversation has a structure before it begins. I find this helps keep me on track, and also helps me make sureI get what I need out of a call without getting side tracked (Which is pretty easy!)

I can always send you an example of the one I use when phoning my internet provider

Those who do not like phones, how do you manage when you really need to call somewhere? I really struggle with this! Sometimes, I find other ways. Insist on using e-mails. Sometimes, I send letters.

But often people want to speak to me over the phone and that sends me into panic mode.

Those who do not like phones, how do you manage when you really need to call somewhere? I really struggle with this! Sometimes, I find other ways. Insist on using e-mails. Sometimes, I send letters.

But often people want to speak to me over the phone and that sends me into panic mode.

Hi California.

I find that writing a script works well.

I have even writen flow diagrams based on what answers I might get, so the conversation has a structure before it begins. I find this helps keep me on track, and also helps me make sureI get what I need out of a call without getting side tracked (Which is pretty easy!)

I can always send you an example of the one I use when phoning my internet provider