A quick hello

FYI - when I found myself in a "proper tizzy" ... now understood to be a substantial 'burnout' ... I had all kinds of mad ideas about how things should change and that then (magically,) everything else would fall into perfect synchronicity ... I would settle and 'be my best self' [fingers down the back of the throat emoji]

In fact, I still had to crash around the world making FU after FU whilst I sorted myself out.  I realised that I couldn't go back to when things were better, because the world had moved on....and I needed to as well.

I think, this is a kindly warning to you....not to presume your state of mind will change quickly with just a change of job circumstance.  I learned this this slow and painful way.

Best regards

Thank you!

Thanks very much. Yeah, work isn't doing me any favours at the moment. I'm on the lookout something different though,  so fingers crossed.

Hello Chris, welcome home!  

I hope you will find this community a good place to be. In the past I found this community very helpful. X.

Welcome Chris

Im sorry you are struggling atm. I have had a little episode for the last week or so also. 
I can’t offer much advice I’m afraid but know that I share your struggles and sympathise. I’m 49 years old, father of 2 boys (one is asd) and I’m looking to an assessment for myself. Discovering your neurodivergent does highlight everything and for me has made me feel more autistic if that makes sense. I hated it at first and had an awful time with it wherever I was I was alone and felt very down. It sounds to me like the work you do atm is the main reason for your struggles. I really hope you can do something about that in the future. I’m really lucky as I work for myself and I’m alone and even though it’s hard work I have a good chunk of time on my own and I think this is what keeps me going. I have been employed 20 ish years ago and really struggled as I was around a lot of people. 

Sorry I cannot offer any advice but just know there are a lot of us on here that shares your experiences 

Looks like you might be a good omen for this place Chris......you appearance has coincided with the re-emergence of a beloved missing traveller who has just popped back into this place #Debbie.  And honestly, I think this place can help many people, not necessarily in the longer term, but defo for a wee while at least.

You are welcome here.

Thanks for the welcome and kind words!

Thanks very much. I'll be sure to check out the links. Much appreciated!

Just_Chris said:

Anyway, both the talking therapies person and the MHP mentioned this place, so here I am.

Well, that almost feels embarrassing at a moment. This forum seems to run in cycles of activity, and at the moment, we are in a part of that cycle that is possibly best described as .... ummm .....sparce.

It is great that you are reaching out a bit....see if anyone else "gets it".....and be reassured, you write clearly and resonantly to many people who have passed through the experience you are currently enduring.  It is a tough time and it lasts longer than anyone would wish for.

If you and your partner are wholly sound (as a relationship) and this is "merely" JUST YOU having some well earned and/or whollly essential "crisis time" (for whatever reason that may be,) then I would imagine that it will be fine, in the long run, if you can PLEASE try to stay sane during this most confusing time of your life.

I am sorry that more of us are not here for you at the moment, don't take it personally, we're just all a bit "doldrums" on the forum at the moment.  I hope you choose to stick around for a while and maybe you'll find something helpful along the way.  I have done.

Be well.

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Hi Just_Chris! Welcome to the community! Your journey is not uncommon here and I'm sure youll find some conversation that will be helpful I have a few links here that might be useful for you to look at:

Our employment pages include information and advice on looking for an applying for a job. We also have a webpage offering information and support on in your rights at work, dealing with bullying and interacting and coping at work.  

You can also find a free online ‘Finding Employment’ module on our website. This module is designed to help autistic job seekers entering the job market in understanding their strengths and what next steps they could take towards gaining meaningful employment or work. 

Our Spectrum Live online series also features an episode discussing employment, this can be found here. 

Evenbreak matches disabled job seekers with employers to build a diverse workforce. You can visit the Evenbreak website for listed job vacancies. 

The British Association of Supported Employment (BASE), have a database of supported employment agencies, so you can search for one in your local area. 

Maximus offer a range of employability programmes throughout the UK, Including, programmes for disabled people who are struggling to fine work. 

Our current employment and volunteering opportunities with The National Autistic Society are listed on our vacancies page.  We particularly welcome applications from autistic people. 

You browse our website for lots of other advice and guidance on a wide range of information about autism, including what autism is, socialising and relationships, employment, benefits and social care.  

You may like to have a look at the mental health section of our website which has useful links to information and advice about a range of mental health issues: https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/mental-health  or more specifically. autistic fatigue and burnout https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/mental-health/autistic-fatigue  

I hope something in there is of interest and helps in some way

Best,

Sarah

Thank you!

Hello and welcome.