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Hi Alice,

I am sorry to hear your situation, and hope you can find the support and friends you need here, plus any support iyou need in the 'real'wotld.

I don't have any family/have long felt like there is no support or understanding (or anyone else like me), also that much of my life had been 'wasted', but am already finding great support here reading other people's stories and getting  advice with my own issues/needs.

I hope this works well for you, and hope to see positive updates  You are still very young, with many opportunities ahead of you. 

Hello Alice, your more than welcome to give me a private mail x

Thank you dear Kate that is a kind and most appreciate thing to do. I thank you dearly from my soul :) 

I do hope to have child in time and will use my own experience to give them the best possible life I can.

I send you best wishes also.

Thank you Alice :)

I can understand this - sometimes we don’t have much choice - I’m sorry you feel like this. 
I’m sure that if you ever have children you won’t make the same mistake your parents are making. You will learn from their mistakes - which is a good thing. 

in the meantime I’m sending you best wishes and solidarity x 

Hello Shardovan, thank you. I already do feel this here its such a wonderful feeling to be myself and not have to mask. 

I'm glad you are finding it the same. Also, big welcome to you too.

Hello Kate, I wish I didn't feel need to mask at home but I don't think I could stay if I didn't. When I'm myself all time it causes a lot problem and they complain at me about using Autism as excuses so its best way is to mask and try to please them if I can. But this is tiring and hard work.

Your family sound wonderful. I am pleased for you that you have them and they have you who I can see you are a supportive and very understand woman. I wish my mother was like you Kate. 

I am sorry you had this with your parents. I feel every parent should be understand and support their children. If I was a parent I would always be my best to support and understand my child. I feel it is something every parent should try to do but sadly not many seem to.

I'm glad you have your family Kate. I am sure they think very much of you and I can see you do of them.

Hi Alice, hopefully you’ll feel supported and understood on here. It’s a lovely community - I’m glad to have recently found it myself. 

Hi Alice, 

You shouldn’t have to mask in your own home - that’s really not ok that you feel you have to do that. 

My husband and children are hugely supportive (they are autistic themselves which is probably partly why!) but my parents were not supportive (they didn’t know I was autistic either). 
I had a very difficult time with my parents - as a child and an adult - because they didn’t ‘get’ me - didn’t understand or support me. It’s a difficult thing to grow up with parents who cannot understand you - so i empathise with your situation. Try to remember that it’s not your fault. x 

Hello Kate, it's nice to see you again.

Everyone in my family except my older sister doesn't understand me. I was try to think of the right word but you are right it is ignorance. I wish they would try to understand but they don't they never have. I try hard to be normal for them and mask myself every day but it's tiring and drains me. My older sister was always there for me but she since is marry and has her own family now.

I hope you have an understanding and supportive family around you :) It sounds like you give a lot so I hope you get equal back.

NAS community seems a supportive and nice place to be in. I'm glad I find it when I did :) 

Hi Alice,

im sorry that your family lack the understanding and empathy that you have every right to expect from them - that’s such a shame. They are displaying a lot of ignorance about autism in their response to your diagnosis - you deserve better. It’s very damaging to our confidence and our self esteem when our families aren’t supportive. There’s lots of solidarity and support on here though - so you will always find friends on here who understand. x 

Hello LaTeRaLus, thank you!

I love your name. It took a while to type it out correctly :) 

Welcome alice