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Wrong diagnosis

NAS72933

Hi, I was diagnosed with aspergers as an adult ten years ago.

Long story short, married to a narcissist for twenty years who convinced me to be assessed, I went along with it thinking it would make life easier and she would change, only to be unceremoniously divorced.

I am very successful,  I run a growing  company, I manage complicated and convoluted bookings, dates and appointments, meet and deal with hundreds and thousands of people a year, executives, producers and such, I write professionally, I perform professionally on stage and more. I am functional at home,think about my family's needs, make sure my kids have what they need, make sure my friends are okay, care about others, interested in them and their feelings. 

I don't think these are autistic traits.

Is there anyone here who can point me in the direction of someone who can reassess me?

  • Hi NAS72933,

    Thank you for sharing this with us, Regarding the reassessment, you may want to look at our information about autism spectrum disorders:

    https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/what-is-autism

    If you were interested in finding out if you are on the autism spectrum, you would need to have a formal diagnostic assessment. You may find it useful to have a look at the following link for further information about diagnosis and the benefits of getting one:

    https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/diagnosis

    Furthermore, it is important the professional you see has experience of autism spectrum disorders. You can find details of diagnostic services on our Autism Services Directory in the Assessment and diagnosis section: http://www.autism.org.uk/directory.aspx

    If you have further questions, you may like to contact our Autism Helpline team. They can provide you with information and advice about getting a diagnosis. You can call them on 0808 800 4104 (Monday to Friday 10 am to 3 pm. Please note that the Helpline is experiencing a high volume of calls and it may take a couple of attempts before you get through to speak to an adviser.

    Hope this helps.

    Kindest regards,

    Eunice Mod

  • in reply to aidie

    Thanks Aidie,

    Yes I have applied as an officer, so I do believe I should be able to contest. My recruiting WO is right on my side, well, of course he is.  I scored 57 on BARB (not bad considering the kids kept disturbing me - even though they knew they should leave me alone) and as a post graduate, should have some skills they want.

    I have been attending my ARC regularly, training is brilliant, I love it, its like being back in cadets, but this time for real. Have already made some amazing friends and would hate to say goodbye.

    Thank you for your brilliant response, it's just what I needed to hear.

  • try this helpline, 

    You may like to contact our Autism Helpline team who can provide you with information and advice.

    https://www.autism.org.uk/what-we-do/help-and-support/helpline

    You can call them on 0808 800 4104 (Monday to Friday 10am to 3pm.Please note that the Helpline is experiencing a high volume of calls and it may take a couple of attempts before you get through to speak to an adviser.

    All the best,

  • tell them it is a mistake ---- i mean put a sentence in your application saying u believe the diagnosis to be wrong and you declare yourself as not autistic. It is up the units/regiments involved if they want to take u or not.  Some regiments cant get certain skills and if u have one they need they will try their best to get u in. So ask for an informal chat. Strings can be pulled.

    Army recruitment give loads of people some  "benefit of the doubt".  eg would take in unfit ( physically & mentally) recruits,/teenagers of all sorts and have them running around all day long weeks before training began. They would be given a weight loss\fitness plan and if they stick to it and can take instructors on a firing range and from superiors they can stay.

    i am talking at private soldier level  maybe you are thinkin of officer level in which case I can say very little.

  • I think you can still have Asperger's despite your success, you're clearly very high functioning.

  • A great example is Elon Musk there was a post half an hour ago and Elon Musk finally admitted he has Aspergers and look at what he has achieved, and on a monumental scale. He has a wife, a child, multiple billion dollar companies.

    Sometimes us autistics can do things that normal NT can't, AS A RESULT OF OUR AUTISM. Don't think that because you're autistic you shouldn't be able to do certain things, a lot of the time there are things we can do a hundred times better than NT people.

    O

  • Why do you think these are not traits?       I'm a chartered engineer and I've run multi-£million projects, married, offspring etc. - in fact, your success and drive are good indicators that you're not like the average Joe.