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HappyEleanor

Hello. I'm new here, been on the spectrum all my life and now in mid 20s and finding it really hard. I can't hold down a job. I struggle with loud noises and I'm pregnant so a bit worried about the baby in case I'm a rubbish mum. Another problem is that people use me and bully me and no one wants to help me. I have a counselor but he's not very helpful. I have a lot of issues and I'm worried in case I'm not good enough for my baby. 

  • awww. sounds like things are very hard for you right now..... i'm also on the spectrum and also at the moment am not able to work and find loud noises stressful. so your definetly not alone. i also have been bullied and that's also very upsetting. regarding the baby, it sounds like your someone who deeply cares a lot - and that's what makes a great mum and i have full confidence in you! i can't think of any particular advice but i want to say keep going, as this hard period will pass!

    btw as someone on the spectrum i can say completely the wrong thing so if i have, don't take it personally, it's part of my autism.......

  • Hi there. Welcome to the forum. Sorry you are finding things hard at the moment. I have two children and found it hard bringing them up, but it's about not feeling you have to be super mum. I found a few people to support me and stayed away from most people - or they stayed away from me. 

    When is your baby due? Do you have some time to help get yourself into a better place before your baby arrives. Do you have a local perinatal mental health service? They can be really useful to get you more support before your baby arrives and also after they have arrived. I had six weeks in a perinatal mental health unit after my second child, which was scary at the time but really helped me get through it. Like Aidie has mentioned, I hope you have some support at home.

    Take care of yourself and your baby.

  • Hello and welcome again to this forum Slight smile

    You will be a great mum, the hormones in you will make sure of that.

    do u have a partner or a mum ?