Desperate to get help

You need the time to take care of yourself and to recover. Many things happened to you that were out of your control, such as the car accident, and with losing your job because of covid19. And then you have to take care of someone else on top of everything. That's a lot of stress to handle.

Perhaps you need some personal space where you can process all your negative emotions and let them out. Sometimes we bottle up negative emotions, but then it'll come out aggressively or passive aggressively. It's good to process emotions so they are validated and understood.

People with severe anxiety can have issues with self-care. Showers might make them feel vulnerable, and they might have issues with travelling outside due to feelings of vulnerability as well. Glenn's lack of passion and interest sounds like the description of clinical depression.
 
What saved me and got rid of my lifelong anxiety and depression, was noticing my stomach issues. My body felt like it was deteriorating from the inside out. I had to notice that it was certain foods that caused me pain, and to stop eating them, and everything about my mental and physical health cleared up in a few days. Most people with autism do better on a gluten free and dairy free diet, and maybe it would be good for Glenn to try it to see if there's any improvements to his mood.

hi

You may like to contact our Autism Helpline team who can provide you with information and advice.

https://www.autism.org.uk/what-we-do/help-and-support/helpline

You can call them on 0808 800 4104 (Monday to Friday 10am to 3pm.Please note that the Helpline is experiencing a high volume of calls and it may take a couple of attempts before you get through to speak to an adviser.

parent TO parent  ----- ring or online query form

https://www.autism.org.uk/what-we-do/help-and-support/parent-to-parent

All the best,

NAS72504 said:

I was quite badly injured in a car accident in August 2019, and also lost my job towards the end of last year, due to Covid.

Hello, Sir

It's difficult to know what to write in response to your post other than I hear you, and I am listening.

I would say be kind to yourself first and foremost. And, if things are truly at breaking point in your relationship with Glen, then perhaps you should step away.  The problem with wanting others to be different to who they are is that it's completely insane. No one has ever been or can ever be more or less than they are. The only sane way of living is to be the person you want to be and who makes you happy.  We can easily fall into the trap of avoiding looking at ourselves and addressing our own inner conflicts by focusing all of our attention outwards towards our children/partners and finding fault with them. 

You've had a car accident and lost your job in the space of twelve months. That's a lot to deal with. You say you're getting counselling for your anger, frustration, depression following your accident so I suggest you keep your focus on yourself and your own mental well-being rather than on what Glen is or isn't doing.

I suppose the question you need to ask yourself is: is whatever Glen it is that Glen is doing harming anyone else?

What is it you want him to do exactly? You say he has no passion, but can you really know that?  Maybe playing his PS4 is his passion at this present time.  Speaking as an autistic person, I can tell you that some of us are very sensitive to other people's moods, especially strong negative emotions such as anger and depression. Even when people think they are concealing their true emotions from us, we can sense them very acutely.

In essence, what I'm saying to you is: find what your own passion is and live that. Maybe when Glen sees that you are happy and living out your own passions, it will inspire him to do the same. 

Positive vibes to you.