Published on 12, July, 2020
I am a 15 year old boy who has been diagnosed with aspergers, adhd and more i cannot remember, Im just here to ask if people are experiencing about what I am about to say and if they can help me out because life is very hard right now, so the main thing I notice is my anger, I can get very angry easily over nothing like someone eating food loud or someone being loud in general or someone who is disturbing me when I am doing something and when I get angry I can't control myself and I either keep it in as much as possible then release it at home or outburst wherever I am, when I get angry the first thing I want to do is to shout at someone, call them names, or hurt myself, I either punch something alot of times or more recently bite myself on the arm multiple times which leaves several bruises, the pain doesn't bother me its just where harming myself can lead like doing alot worse which i have almost done on multiple occasions, I also have alot of suicidal thoughts, one time I got a long rope like thing and wrapped it around my neck and pulled as hard as i could just to feel something but it done nothing as usual. The reason I am telling everyone who reads this here is because I am too scared to tell anyone in real life like my parents or anyone else, I just badly need help and i am clueless on how to get it so if anyone could help me who has experienced the same as me I would be very grateful.
Do you go to school? If you do what do you know about their student support services?
yes I do go to school and I was offered "help" but nothing ever happened about it, they gave me no real help except from saying "calm down" and stuff like that, so no real help from them which is why I'm struggling even more.
School has a responsibility to support you. One of the reasons that I asked the question is that they could help you to tell your parents. I understand completely why you are scared to, but it is really important that they know how you feel and that you need help. You will need their support to push things with the school in helping you to access the right support. I am sure that they would want to know.
How about speaking to your tutor at school in private and ask them to make you an appointment with the SENCO. It would be a good idea to write down all the points you want to discuss so that you don't get cross. If you can, perhaps you can show them what you have written on this site. I am not an expert and I don't know you, but what I do know is that you have to access help and the school should be able to help. Find out if they have a school counsellor when you talk to the Senco and how can you access this service. Explain that the help they have offered so far hasn't maybe been the right help because of how you are feeling and there are a lot of outside services that they can refer you to. Your parents will need to be involved legally as you are classed as a minor to help you access the right support.
The other thing is to make an appointment with your doctor to explain the situation. They may talk to you over the phone because of COVID restrictions, but they need to know how you feel sooner rather than later.
As you have posted on this site, then why not given the NAS a call aswell to get their advice.
I hope that these three routes are a start for you. Write down all the conversations you have with people to include date, time, the name of the person you speak to. Keep a record of what you said and what they said and what they were going to organise for you. don't forget to ask how long things will take so you can manage your expectations and chase people when you haven't heard anything.
Let me know how you get on.
Thank you so much for the help and I am glad this post has helped you on understanding your children better, writing my feelings down is a very good idea and I will definitely start using that strategy, It's also good knowing that I'm not the only one experiencing this and knowing that there is help for me is really good, It's just going for the help which is the problem but writing my feelings down is a very good idea because it will make me less anxious.
thanks for the help, Ill definitely start writing things down about how I feel and hopefully I will be able to show somebody at some point.