I need help about my autism and life

Do you go to school? If you do what do you know about their student support services?

yes I do go to school and I was offered "help" but nothing ever happened about it, they gave me no real help except from saying "calm down" and stuff like that, so no real help from them which is why I'm struggling even more.

School has a responsibility to support you. One of the reasons that I asked the question is that they could help you to tell your parents. I understand completely why you are scared to, but it is really important that they know how you feel and that you need help. You will need their support to push things with the school in helping you to access the right support. I am sure that they would want to know.

How about speaking to your tutor at school in private and ask them to make you an appointment with the SENCO.  It would be a good idea to write down all the points you want to discuss so that you don't get cross. If you can, perhaps you can show them what you have written on this site. I am not an expert and I don't know you, but what I do know is that you have to access help and the school should be able to help. Find out if they have a school counsellor when you talk to the Senco and how can you access this service. Explain that the help they have offered so far hasn't maybe been the right help because of how you are feeling and there are a lot of outside services that they can refer you to. Your parents will need to be involved legally as you are classed as a minor to help you access the right support.

The other thing is to make an appointment with your doctor to explain the situation. They may  talk to you over the phone because of COVID restrictions, but they need to know how you feel sooner rather than later.

As you have posted on this site, then why not given the NAS a call aswell to get their advice.

I hope that these three routes are a start for you. Write down all the conversations you have with people to include date, time, the name of the person you speak to. Keep a record of what you said and what they said and what they were going to organise for you. don't forget to ask how long things will take so you can manage your expectations and chase people when you haven't heard anything.

Let me know how you get on.

Thank you so much for the help and I am glad this post has helped you on understanding your children better, writing my feelings down is a very good idea and I will definitely start using that strategy, It's also good knowing that I'm not the only one experiencing this and knowing that there is help for me is really good, It's just going for the help which is the problem but writing my feelings down is a very good idea because it will make me less anxious.

thanks for the help, Ill definitely start writing things down about how I feel and hopefully I will be able to show somebody at some point.

I understand. My daughter, who has Aspergers, and son who has autism, find it difficult to tell someone or speak up because of their anxiety. You write very well, so why don't you consider putting it in writing to a relevant member of staff at your school. Start with your tutor and explain that you need to let them know how you are feeling and that you need some help and ask who you can write to in the SEND team or student support services to tell them about you. . Just explain that talking about it increases your levels of anxiety and that you would prefer to write it all down. It also gives you a chance to say what you want to because if you have to speak to someone you might forget something. The school will then have the full picture and should know what to do next. I can't see that this would be a problem for them and it would mean that you don't have to worry about having to find someone to speak to. When they receive your written request for help, then the right person will contact you. Do you think that this way could help? 

You have received some great advice from those who have posted and you have replied brilliantly. You clearly understand yourself and you recognise what you find challenging. Anime is great and it is something my daughter is now into and as a result she has made some like minded friends through her interest in Anime and it has really helped with her anxiety. Having an interest/hobby as suggested by one of the posts is really important as it will give you a focus, particularly when you feel that things are a bit tough. I know you said that you weren't a great fan of exercise but it is really beneficial for your mental health. You could always start at home by following an exercise programme on line.

I have only just joined the forum, but I have learnt a lot from you as some of your own circumstances mirror the challenges my children face. The replies you have received are proving useful to me aswell so whilst you are struggling at the moment, your own experiences and others are helping me to understand my children better. Well done for taking such a bold step to post  and I hope that you have the courage to take that first step with the school and get the help you need.

Many young people hide stuff, or everything, so adults are used to that. Many adults and teachers ate still hiding stuff and can't open up, nor can they listen when someone else opens up. But other adults have been through a lot, seen and heard a lot, and can be surprisingly supportive when soneone opens up and not surprised.

I used to teach and would have a good 5-10 young people open up about pretty awful things each year, and lots more talk about anxiety, etc that they'd never told anyone. So good you feel there's someone you can talk to.

Write it down as practice. The key is getting the first 2-3 sentences out, then they'll start facilitating you talk more hipefully. And write it down as a back up. I did therpy for years but couldn't communicate to my therapist how i actually felt inside, so i wrotet down and then she got it.

I'm glad you can think of someone to talk to.

Many young people hide stuff, or everything, so adults are used to that. Many adults and teachers ate still hiding stuff and can't open up, nor can they listen when someone else opens up. But other adults have been through a lot, seen and heard a lot, and can be surprisingly supportive when soneone opens up and not surprised.

I used to teach and would have a good 5-10 young people open up about pretty awful things each year, and lots more talk about anxiety, etc that they'd never told anyone. So good you feel there's someone you can talk to.

Write it down as practice. The key is getting the first 2-3 sentences out, then they'll start facilitating you talk more hipefully. And write it down as a back up. I did therpy for years but couldn't communicate to my therapist how i actually felt inside, so i wrotet down and then she got it.

I'm glad you can think of someone to talk to.

thanks for the help, Ill definitely start writing things down about how I feel and hopefully I will be able to show somebody at some point.