Hi does anyone else suffer from the inability to block out noise? I hear my neighbours, I hear the traffic, car doors slamming, flat doors slamming, barking dogs and I can’t block any of it out. I live with noise cancelling headphones on all the time, it is now affecting my gait so I’ve been advised to not wear them so much but it is the only way I can deal with the world. I find it is much worse when I don’t sleep and I never sleep well. I feel overwhelmed with the noise around me and lost. Does it ever get better? The older I get the worse it gets. I’m having difficulty dealing with every day life. Does it ever get any better? I feel like if I couldn’t hear anymore, it would be a relief. I’m constantly exhausted. Everyone try’s to take your money by promising this supplement will help, or dietary changes will make it better. Has anyone found anything that makes it better?
Same. Always have and it drives me nuts, especially when my mother used to nag my brother over and over to do things. Open-plan offices are my definition of hell. It is overwhelming and exhausting, as you say. On the inside, I feel like I'm going to explode, and all I can do is self-harm to relieve the frustration because, apparently, yelling at people to shut the f*** up is considered 'inappropriate' no matter how much they torment me.
I can categorically say, the more stressed I am, the more sensitive I am (and the constant noise exposure is stressful so it's a bit of a vicious circle). Consequently, I do what I can to minimise my stressors—be that limiting my exposure to people, foods that make me allergic or moody, itchy clothing, overheating, whatever—and try to maximise my stress-relievers, namely getting out for a quiet walk along the beach and some fresh air, or going swimming. Use earplugs the rest of the time. Due to my chronic vestibular migraine, I haven't been able to use headphones in a while as I was finding they made my dizziness worse, so, although I hadn't heard of that side-effect before, I'm not entirely surprised they've affected your gait.
Do you find it's worse when you're stressed?
Yes, everything is amplified when I’m stressed and tired. My clothes bother me, I can’t stand my hair touching my face. Things that I can usually tolerate become intolerable. It’s painful to live sometimes. I find even a car ride is difficult because I feel every bump in the road. I can always tell when I’m doing okay because I don’t think about being in the car at all. Controlling my anger when I can’t get away from the noise is a work in progress. I Always try to reflect later whether it was my inability to cope with it or if it was actually justified. I can totally relate to telling people to shut the f*** up. Our world is too loud.
100% I think it's almost a 'given' with autism...
I always have white noise on in the background. I’ve slept with a fan since I was a child and I purchased a recording, 10 hours of box fan, which is amazing to listen to when I go shopping or take public transport.
I have just assumed that what you are describing and 100% what I experience is just apart of autism I hear everything and from miles away, same with my sense of smell that's also an over active thing I can't turn off,.
Smell! Yeah... I also 'suffer' with visual stuff like spelling mistakes in menus etc. Watching TV I can always spot when someone is using an empty cup as a prop (especially takeaway coffee ones) - it's really distracting!
Don't even get me started on 'continuity errors'...
Yep, I hear ya—stressed or tired. I've also had tinnitus since I was 18, so even when it's silent on the outside, there's still constant noise in my head. Ugh.
As you say, all the sensory stuff becomes incredibly bothersome.
Much the same here. Tiredness and/or stress certainly don't help, but have always found it incredibly difficult to block out or ignore background noise (or other stimuli, such as movement in my field of vision, people fidgeting next to me, etc.) I do also feel that I'm finding it harder to do as I get older.
I've also known for a very long time that I hear things which other people simply don't. Although not confirmed by an audiologist, I am certain that I perceive sounds beyond the range of hearing of most people, even allowing for age differences. I have been driven crazy by supposedly inaudible (to people) ultra-sonic pest repellers, and can often hear high-frequency switched-mode power supplies (or the high-frequencies of the old CRT televisions). The same with very low frequencies - I've often pointed out structural noises, such as fridges, fans, etc. being transmitted through floors and walls, which leave other people wondering what the hell I'm going on about.
Greetings... For some reason I only just now thought of trying to Post this perspective...
For sleeping and to rest, yes, noise-cancelling or earplugs or white-noise (Radios, Fans, Recordings, etc.) is necessary. But while awake, do none of that. Have a go at Focussing upon certain noises, or rather, have a go at just ignoring them all untill a noise *needed* to be heard is heard, or a noise which is not damaging or is liked, is heard (usually birdsong or, um, "children laughing" (...))... Then have a go at focussing upon that.
There is always noise, and block the ears when it is not needed to be heard... Yet noise is as informative and interesting as sight or smell is. Focus upon certain noises to know what is going on, and to predict and see and know what is happening. Have a go/practise using quiet places (Sundays, Parks, or something), and single out the noises which do not cause stress from those which do.
...This post is long enough, now, so I wonder if anyone else knows what I mean...?
(P.S. - For Myself, when People (Children) are SCREAMING, Yes, I do not like that and do leave the immediate area, and I plug My ears at Sirens going past.)