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Giving and recieving gifts

Kenny_1622

I have a problem giving and recieving gifts, it just doesnt feel like a normal thing to do. I feel like i have to act or be a certain way or im obligated to do something. Its difficult to process it, anyone else have similiar issue 

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  • I find it really difficult as I hate surprises and I don’t know how to react. I try to provide the expected response but as it’s dependent on the type of present, I don’t think I always get it right.

  • in reply to ArchaeC

    Same for me- I hate being surprised! I’ve found over the years that giving my friends/ family a list of exactly what I want is so helpful, and being told if they got it or not. It’s taken a while but now they know not to get me things that aren’t on the list, as they understand that it’s stressful for me. 

    On the other hand, I love giving gifts, but only if I know the person is going to like it. I find I make a lot of gifts for people because I want them to know I value them, and so putting time into making something is my way of doing that and showing appreciation. 

  • in reply to _Poetchi

      and  
    Is it okay if I hi-jack your conversation slightly, as you both mentioned hating surprises. My daughter is like this, hates surprises and not knowing things (she's 8). I was wondering if you get this for other areas besides presents? Such as she will look at the back of a book first so she knows the ending, and that makes the story more enjoyable for her.  

    I was just curious as I'm a rigid rule follower, and the idea of getting things out of turn goes against my nature -I still remember the christmas I was 5 and my mum wanted to let us all open a present early and I didn't want to, and in the end was made to by everyone else so as not to spoil the fun. So I am curious to hear the other side! (although you might not have any other examples)

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  • in reply to _Poetchi

      and  
    Is it okay if I hi-jack your conversation slightly, as you both mentioned hating surprises. My daughter is like this, hates surprises and not knowing things (she's 8). I was wondering if you get this for other areas besides presents? Such as she will look at the back of a book first so she knows the ending, and that makes the story more enjoyable for her.  

    I was just curious as I'm a rigid rule follower, and the idea of getting things out of turn goes against my nature -I still remember the christmas I was 5 and my mum wanted to let us all open a present early and I didn't want to, and in the end was made to by everyone else so as not to spoil the fun. So I am curious to hear the other side! (although you might not have any other examples)

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